GAIN CONFIDENCE

GAIN CONFIDENCE

• KNOWLEDGE IS POWER: Those who know are ultimately much more confident in any arena than those shrouded in ignorance. Use your spare time to read up on the things that interest you, on the things that you are curious about, and build up a solid base of knowledge and critical thinking. The more you know, the surer of yourself you will be in any situation.
• EXPERIENCE: Uncertainty is the biggest drain on your self-confidence. Succumbing to doubt ensures you will never believe in yourself. The more often you do something, the more certain you become. With certainty comes confidence.
• CARE-FREE ATTITUDE: Try to walk through your day with as easy and care-free of an attitude as you can muster, because someone who is it ease with him or herself is someone who is confident. Build unstoppable confidence by not getting hung up on the petty issues and minor irritations that help wear you down.
• HONEST SELF-ASSESSMENT: Take stock of yourself. Brainstorm for a bit and compose a list of your good qualities and bad, the things you excel at and the things you need to improve upon, and once you have a clear picture of yourself much of the uncertainty that breeds doubt will wash away.
• ANALYZE: Take the time to properly think through every problem, and the confidence in your skills will grow.
• BE THOROUGH: Try to be as complete and thorough at every task you attempt. Completing tasks builds confidence in your ability to always see projects through to their proper conclusion.
• IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITS, AND EXCEED THEM: Once you have assessed yourself, make a list of goals you wish to accomplish, and get to work. You now know your true limits, so the only thing left to do is push beyond them and set your sights on new frontiers.
• BE OPEN TO HELPING OTHERS: Don’t close yourself off to friends, acquaintances and co-workers. The more you put yourself out there in business and social situations, the more quickly you will build confidence in your ability to navigate these sometimes tricky waters.
• COMPOSE YOURSELF: Dress well, groom yourself, compose your identity as a person who is well put together, and you will feel confident when meeting new people and doing new things.
• BE DECISIVE: While it is okay to take time to analyze and think situations through, the time comes when you must be decisive and act. Decisive people are confident; not confident people are decisive.
• BE COMPLETE: Know yourself fully, wash away your own doubts about yourself, your identity and your capabilities, and present every aspect of yourself in every situation and you will have no reason to doubt your confidence. Become your full, real self.

Where Is Happiness?

Where Is Happiness?

{Article Sent To Me From My Uncle}

Where is happiness? More than five billion people are searching for it. But where is it? If happiness was in the hand, then the one whose wrist is adorned with a designer watch worth hundreds of thousands of dollars/Euros/ rands etc, or whose fingers have been ringed with priceless diamonds, or the one who counts huge bundles of his money everyday, would always be very happy. If happiness was in the eyes, then the one who lives in the most scenic of places, with his most luxurious, expensive and eye-catching possessions such as furniture, cars, clothing, etc., in front of him all the time, would forever be elated. If happiness was in the stomach, the person feasting on delicacies would have been continuously ecstatic, while the one eating simple basic food would have been very miserable. However, nobody has found happiness in possessions and objects. Happiness is in the heart. If the heart is happy, the joy of the heart permeates every part of the body, irrespective of whether the hand does not have a rand, or whether the stomach has only been filled with bread and water. The question is: How does the heart gain happiness?

 CONTENTMENT

 The foundation of happiness is Imaan. The pillars of this happiness are righteous actions and the qualities of Imaan. Among the foremost qualities of Imaan that bring happiness to the heart and fill one’s life with peace and tranquillity is qana’ah (contentment). Rasulullah (SAW) is reported to have said: “Verily true wealth is the contentment of the heart.” In another narration contentment has been described as “the wealth that is never exhausted.” Wahb bin Munabbah (R.A.) expressed this reality in the form of an anecdote. “Respect and wealth went out one day to search for a companion,” he said. “They met contentment and permanently stayed over with him.” The message is clear: Respect and true wealth is to be found in contentment. Otherwise one will be forever poor and miserable despite owning billions.

 Contentment refers to being happy with what one has been blessed with. It entails living within one’s means. Contentment does not bar one from possessing any comfort and luxury. Indeed, it is opposed to buying things merely to enhance one’s “status,” or to avoid being regarded as “old-fashioned” by others. Contentment is the opposite of materialism. Therefore, if contentment offers peace and happiness, materialism promises unhappiness and misery.

FAKE IMAGE

 The false promise of materialism is that happiness lies in accumulating possessions, chasing after material pursuits and presenting the “right image”. A simple example of this is the obsession with branded garments and other merchandise. Such is the obsession to have the “right” image that if one cannot afford the original branded item, a fake will also do — you must have the “right image” even if you have to fake it. Yet, has it really ever given anyone happiness? For those who only believe in “research,” extensive studies conducted by psychologists confirm that people who focus on wealth, possessions, image, fame and the like generally suffer the following problems to a far greater degree than non-materialistic people: Low psychological well-being, increased feelings of anger, difficulties with attention (ADD), prone to impulsive behaviour, significantly higher levels of depression and anxiety, high levels of distress, feelings of emptiness, insecurity, lack of generosity, consumed by envy, and are overall less satisfied with life than those who are not materialistic. (High Price of Materialism, Pg. 9 – 17)

While Islam has emphasised adopting simplicity, it has not forbidden the use of luxuries. Acquiring luxuries is mainly subject to the following conditions: * One can afford it with Halaal earnings * It does not entail wastage * It is not being acquired merely to follow the trend, or to boast and show off. Thus using luxuries is in itself not forbidden — materialism is forbidden.

Materialistic people make things and objects the source of happiness. “Things” will necessarily scratch, crack and break. Thus one’s happiness will be in tatters every time something happens to the beloved items. Moreover, what is the “best” today is outdated tomorrow. As a result one feels unhappy until the new “best” is acquired. This continues until suddenly one is at the door of death.

On the contrary, one who is content remains happy. The content person keeps looking within himself to try and improve his inner-qualities. This brings increased happiness within him. The materialistic person tries to improve the outside to be happy. Such happiness is repeatedly shattered. Since this world and its glamour are all perishable, the happiness associated with it is bound to perish sooner or later.

 FOCUS ON VALUES

 The path to happiness is therefore contentment. This requires a change of mindset. The importance we have given to material pursuits, image, social status and wealth must be shifted to true Deeni values. The focus must be on Taqwa (Allah—consciousness), simplicity, contentment, generosity, caring and sharing, love and respect for parents and others, compassion, sympathy, etc. Striving to acquire such values and living a life filled with these qualities brings happiness in this world and unimaginable rewards in the hereafter. Otherwise, a life without values is a valueless life!

The values and qualities described above are acquired by sincerely associating with the pious and taking their guidance in everything we do. Also, shut your eyes and ears to the “prophet” of materialism — advertising. Do not walk on the path of materialism by following trends, being obsessed with brands, worrying about image, etc. 

“May Allah fill our hearts with contentment and turn our focus to the Hereafter. Aameen.”

“O Dear Muslims”

“O Dear Muslims”

“O Dear Muslims, if we were sincere

and tread the path of the righteous,

The living among us,

who didn’t know the path to the straight,

would have fallen in love,

with Islam the real faith.

If we practised Islam the true way,

Our manners were the best

in what we thought and what we said

Just by looking at us,

the unbelievers would have convert

to the religion of Islam

the perfect and true.

O Muslims, did we practise Islam

for ourselves and our family?

Did we not care for the

whole entire Ummah?

What will we say to our beloved

Prophet (SAW)

on Judgment Day?

He made so much effort

before he passed away.

Will he have a smile

on his face for us?

Or will he be unhappy

And his face turned away from us?

And won’t we feel disgrace and injustice?

O Dear Muslims, just don’t pray for yourselves

and family.

Pray for the entire Ummah.”

Good Habits For Basic Personal Development And Growth

Good Habits For Basic Personal Development And Growth

 Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve. The following is a list of practical habits that can make a huge difference in our lives. We should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way we will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.

Health habits:

• Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if we don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that we get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
• Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it.
• Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. We may think that we are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality we are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch (which is a Sunnah).
• Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If we are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food its ok.
• Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
• Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
• Drink one glass of water when we wake up. When we wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after we wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
• Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the unhealthiest beverages we can find. Limit our consumption of soda as much as possible and our bodies will be grateful for that.
• Keep our body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
• If we smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
• Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces us to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.

Productivity habits

• Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. We can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on our computer.
• Prioritize. If we have a list of things to do, where do we start? One way is to prioritize our list. If we are in doubt, ask ourselves: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
• Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and we should decide in advance what we are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
• Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time.(I am working on this 1 ;))
• Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check our email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after we try this.
• Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean we are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
• Clean off our desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
• Automate. There are a lot of tasks that we need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
• Set strict deadlines. When we do something, decide in advance when we are going to stop. There’s a rule that states that we will fulfil all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing our productivity.
• Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example Sunday) where we are not going to turn on our computer use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.

Personal Development habits:

• Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep our brain active. With just 30 minutes per day we should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year (I personally try to read about 5 paras from the Quran per day and I do feel so great when I do) .
• Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise our brain.
• Think positively. We are what we think, all the time.
• Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever we are going to do something, make our decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
• Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
• Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.

Career habits:

• Start a blog. Blogging is one of the best ways to put our word out. It doesn’t have to be around a specific topic, even a personal blog will do (1 of the best things I have done so far :))
• Build a portfolio. If our job is creating stuff, building a portfolio is a great way to show what we are capable of. We can also contribute stuff for free if that applies to our work.

 What do you think? What are the habits that changed your life?

Wisdom For Everyday

Wisdom For Everyday

• If you are right, then there is no need to get angry.  And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry.
• Patience with family is love, Patience with others is respect.  Patience with self is confidence.
• Never think hard about past, it brings tears.  Don’t think more about future, it brings fears. Live this moment with a smile, it brings cheers.
• Every test in our life makes us bitter or better.  Every problem comes to make us or break us. Choice is ours, whether we become victim or victorious.
• Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face.  Beautiful things are not always good, but good things are always beautiful.