Believe In Yourself

Believe In Yourself

If you give a part of yourself to life,

the part you receive back will be so much greater.

Never regret the past, but learn by it.

Never lose sight of your dreams;

a person who can dream will always have hope.

Believe in yourself;

if you do, everyone else will.

You have the ability to accomplish anything,

but never do it at someone else’s expense.

If you can go through life loving others,

you will have achieved the greatest success of all.

Positive Thinking The Power

Positive Thinking The Power

• Harness your positive power: A negative outlook usually leads to negative experiences, but taking an optimistic approach to life, and everything it throws your way, can reap dividends and lead to positive experiences. Some evidence even suggests that being positive makes us happier, and happier people generally live longer!
• Be in control of yourself: The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. We can be positive or negative, and this is reflected in our enthusiasm for doing things, or our response to certain situations. Although you can’t necessarily control the things that happen to you, you can control how you react to them.  For example, if an accident holds you up on your way to work, you are likely to be late and quite possibly very angry — but getting angry is wasted energy. Have a coping mechanism or strategy — just accept you are going to be late and deal with it.
• Don’t dwell on the past: What is gone is gone, and how you deal with the aftermath is the most important thing.  There is no point apportioning blame, either on ourselves or others. You have the power to change a situation and move on. It is so easy to say ‘I should have done things differently with the benefit of hindsight. However, if bad things have happened, look at tomorrow at exactly what it is a new day in which good things can happen, if you let them.
• Get off to the right start: On waking, take some time to lie there and think about the day ahead and your feelings about it.  Think about your attitude to each aspect of the day and consider if there is any part that you feel particularly negative about. If so, think about the best way to deal with the event in this situation, but more importantly, where possible, think about how you will manage in the future — is there a way of not putting yourself in this situation again in the future?
• Enlist help: If there is any particular task that you really can’t face alone, then enlist some help. There is nothing like getting someone else on board to help out to make you feel more positive about tackling a job be it at home or at work. You could even try enlisting the help of your family don’t be a martyr and end up feeling miserable about your chores and responsibilities.
• Be pro-active: If there are things in your day that you are truly going to struggle to be positive about, try and work out what is it about them that makes you feel that way. Is there anything you could do that could change your attitude towards it? If you regularly dread your commute to work, then perhaps you could consider a different mode of transport. If it is your job that is the problem, then is it perhaps time to start looking for work elsewhere.
• Carry happy memories: If you are ever feeling negative, nothing quite perks you up like a happy thought. Think of the positive times in your life and when you were at your happiest. You might be able to prompt your memory and happy feelings by carrying a cherished item or photograph, or even by listening to a favorite song with positive associations.
• Tomorrow is another day: Aside from famously being the last line in Gone with the Wind, this truism should be used in your daily approach. However bad your previous day may have been (and you might be feeling your previous optimism didn’t pay off), it is worth persisting rather than letting yourself turn towards your dark side. Thinking positively is about making a commitment to yourself to get the most out of your day. It is about being enthusiastic, keeping your mind focused on important things and developing strategies for dealing with problems. The best advice is to do your best each day and try not to look back at things that happen to you along the way just reflect on them in a positive learning way. Of a person’s mood, Abraham Lincoln once said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”It’s up to you as to how you feel, and how you act. In turn, this will affect the way in which others react towards you.  Remember, if you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always have what you’ve always had.

Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others

Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others

In relationships with our loved ones, when looking at the other, sometimes positive emotions are generated and sometimes negative. On the one hand, joy, love and happiness is generated on being with them; but then attachment, dependency and expectations are generated.

 In such situations, we are more focused on others and are always looking at the other person’s behaviour, we stop seeing ourselves and being aware of our reactions and taking the responsibility for the responses that we create.

 We get frustrated when the other person does not meet our expectations. As we depend on them, if they don’t act as we would like, if they don’t reach home or call us at the time we would like; all this frustrates us. We radiate this energy to the other: “they are not doing what they should be doing,” and so we feel frustrated and discontented.

All the while that we hold the other one responsible for our frustration, we are not in charge of our own reactions, because we have given power to the other to dominate our emotional world. It is there that we lose our freedom. W lose your freedom because we give to the other, in the name of love, power over our own moods. We allow the others’ energy to enter our inner world and cause inside our frustration, bad moods, irritation, sorrow and a mental and emotional dependence where we are constantly thinking about where they are, what they have to do, what they have to say, where they have to go, and all this consumes a lot of our mental energy. Wanting to control the other and the frustration that it brings with it uses up a lot of emotional energy.

Never try to control other’s life e.g. some parents try to control their kids (life) even after their marriage and thus create lot of confusions. Instead of trying to change everyone, let us change ourselves to live a happy life as also allowing others!

Never Take Someone’s Feelings For Granted

Never Take Someone’s Feelings For Granted

“Never take someone’s feelings for granted for you never know how much courage that they took to show it to you.”

When you are dealing with someone’s feelings, never take them for granted, you never know what someone is going through, and you never know how hard it may have been for their true feelings to come to light.

Remember that not everyone is the same, and that not everyone will come to love you the way you think that they maybe should. Focus on the fact that someone was willing to take a chance and show you that they love you, instead of giving focus to and picking apart the manner in which they do. Love isn’t always about pizza’s and flash, many times love is most shown by the amount of effort someone is willing to put into their relationship.

Trust in people sometimes, and cherish that a person is willing to give to you. Realize that loving is a risk, and that you both have to appreciate anytime a person is willing to show you their feelings.

Look deeper. Find a gentle and honest heart, a strong backbone, a striving spirit. Look to what the person does, how they live, how they treat people, how they relate to the Almighty. Look to that shimmering soul inside, and discern whether it’s a selfish and bitter soul or loving and true. Look beyond the packaging to the core, and trust your Allah-given instincts, and you’ll find yourself a rare happiness, a precious partnership, or a true friend.

Ways to Recharge Your Energy Levels

Ways to Recharge Your Energy Levels

Do you get that feeling sometimes like you’re so tired your head is just going to drop down at any moment? We’ve all been there, and it’s hard to deal with this feeling, especially when doing something important like work or hanging out with family. I hope this will help charge your battery!

• Eat a banana: Bananas provide minerals, nutrients and stimulants such as potassium, which provides controlled energy, preferred to the type of energy obtained all at once from simple sugars.
• Place head between your legs: This trick will get blood flowing to your head. Sit on a chair and put your head between your legs. Send your arms towards the floor and relax your body for 20 seconds. After the time has passed, rise slowly, vertebra by vertebra. This exercise will give you energy that gradually unfolds.
• Drink Green Tea: Yes we’ve said it before, but the fact still remains that green tea has an abundance of phytochemicals called tannins. These help, among other things, to calm the nervous system and thus increase the feeling of well-being.
• Pinch your cheeks: Our grandparents probably had a good reason to pinch our cheek. This stimulates the blood flow to the face and makes you feel more alert.
• Drink lots of water: All body systems require a large amount of water to function. In the absence of water in the body, proper functioning slows, blood flow becomes weaker and less oxygen reaches the brain. Drink a glass of water every two hours at least, when the goal is to drink 8-12 glasses of water a day.
• Get some sun: Small doses of vitamin D can be a great incentive. Take a walk or sit a few minutes in the sun. Fresh air combined with natural light will make you feel more alert.
• Move the body: Once you feel the fatigue taking over, get up and shake your body. Do some stretching, push-ups, a short trip or just a few jumps instead. Movement stimulates blood flow in the body and releases endorphins that make you feel alert.
• Laugh out loud: Laughter has been shown to distress us but also acts as a natural stimulant. A good belly laugh releases endorphins that neutralize the bad effects of the hormone cortisol (stress hormone), increase blood flow and oxygen and give you a sense of well being.
• Take a deep breath: Take a deep breath and slowly let it out through your nose, and again, fill your abdomen and exhale, emptying all the air from your lungs. Do it three times. Breathing will help your body relax and get rid of toxins, and the oxygen will stimulate you.
• Put in a house plant: Stuffy offices have limited air movement which can increase fatigue and cause headaches and allergies. Insert household plants that can help filter out volatile chemical compounds and airborne pollutants, as well as stimulate air movement to better help you deal with the standing air, and make you feel less fatigued.
• Smell a lemon: Certain smells like citrus, ginger and mint can produce a stimulating effects and increase alertness. Light a scented candle or sniff a lemon for stimulating energy and improved mood.
• Surround yourself in red: Studies show that the colour red is associated with a sense of victory and confidence. Try to surround yourself in shades of red to elevate your mood.
• Sit upright: It wouldn’t hurt to stand up straight in the chair. An Upright posture not only helps blood and oxygen to move more freely, but also enhances the sense of security.
• Wake up the brain: When the brain feels drowsy, try to wake him by solving a crossword puzzle, reading aloud, talking to a friend, a quick recitation or singing. 
• Play with a pet: Spend time with your furry friend. It will make you feel happier and more energetic!

 

Keys To Success In This Life And The Hereafter..

Keys To Success In This Life And The Hereafter..

• Patience, steadfastness, endurance and accepting what Allah has destined for you. This will make you strong to face more hardships and will give you rewards in this life by turning your troubles into blessings and you will be blessed with much goodness for the next life.
• Being grateful and thankful to Allah for everything you have, being content with what Allah has given you. This will make you feel rich even if you don’t have a thing (which is never true) and it will get you rewarded by increasing your blessings in this world and in the hereafter.
• Piousness, righteousness, good character, doing what is prescribed and keeping away from forbidden deeds. This will make you loved by Allah, His angels and mankind, and you will be rewarded in this life by always having a way out of the troubles of this life and you will be rewarded with Jannah in the hereafter.
• Putting your total trust in Allah, leaving your affairs in His hands, and realizing that everything goes as He has planned. This will give you peace of mind and assurance that the creator of everything is drawing and playing the right cards for your life.

It Tells No Lies..

It Tells No Lies..

Did you know that everything you see in others, yes, the good, the bad, and the ugly, is simply a mirror reflection of yourself? For you to be able to recognize a weakness, or see strength in others means that you have to have at least a trace of it in yourself. Otherwise, how could you then recognize it in others? If you want to have successful relationships then you have to take responsibility and ownership for your own thoughts and feelings, this is the key to building inner strength and emotional stability.

At first you may be shocked by the thought that that person who drives you crazy or causes you pain is mirroring back something within you! However, if you truly understand this deep spiritual point, then it can set you free from creating the habit of complaining, blaming and comparing. This firmly puts the ball back in your court. You can no longer play the victim  you need to stand up and take responsibility for what and who you are  it is always easier to point the finger at others. This is a real step towards freedom and self-mastery.

Just as a mirror tells no lies, so our judgement and especially criticism of other people is most interesting, because remember the mirror tells no lies. The fact that you can recognize ego in others, means that, sorry folks no doubt about it, you must have it in yourself. The fact that you recognize kindness and generosity in another means you too must have applied those very same qualities. At some point in time you have been guilty of the same deeds that you now find yourself condemning.

Every time you find yourself commenting on the actions of others, it would serve you well to take a moment for reflection to check your own actions. And here is another very beautiful point of learning: as you begin to correct yourself, you will see that others begin to change and mirror back the very same correction. If you get irritated and aggressive others will also. However, if you show humility in a situation, most likely others will start to show humility too. Although you may need to be patient before seeing the results!

You have to be willing to recognize your own shortcomings. If you really wish to build up your inner power, then you will see the mirror as a gift that allows you to see yourself and take the necessary steps towards positive change. It takes a great soul to initiate a great act to forgive to step back and give others a chance to maintain silence instead of shouting back this new behaviour takes time but also brings great rewards.

Just as a mirror can magnify a light, so too you can light up the life of others by shining brightly yourself. When you choose to see the best in them, by accentuating the positive and seeing the beauty in each soul then your light also shines. By allowing others to see their own truth, beauty and magnificence, then you mirror back to them their pure potential. This is perhaps the greatest service you can do for others because therein lies the healing for each and every soul, to be able to really see the essential goodness that is in each one of us.

When your mirror is dirty you cannot even see the beauty that is right in front of your eyes. What is obscuring your vision? It is the dirt of your own negative vision and attitude that creates waste thoughts and feelings. Negative attitudes and beliefs can only cloud your vision. Release them.

It’s time to accept that the mirror tells no lies. Remember that the method for your own salvation from old patterns of thinking and finger pointing, the blaming others and everything that goes with it is to simply begin with some small change in your life. Begin by polishing your own mirror, and then reflect out only goodness and without a doubt only goodness can shine back to you.