The Al-Imdaad Foundation

The Al-Imdaad Foundation

Who -What is the The Al-Imdaad Foundation, “The Al-Imdaad Foundation is a non-profit humanitarian aid relief organisation (NGO) registered in the Republic of South Africa, dedicated to providing humanitarian services in crisis and non-crisis situations to most needy orphans, widows and destitute, irrespective of race, religion, culture, creed and geographical boundary.” quote taken from their website : http://www.alimdaad.com/html/Public/About.aspx

I personally know 2 of the many amazing aid -volunteers, Qari Ziyaad Patel and his wife Ayesha.

The amount of hardships and headaches they have seen, witnessed and have experienced with their team is devastating. 

I ask you my dear readers, bloggers, take time , visit their website , their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/ALIMDAAD

Helping and caring for the destitute should NOT be about, religion, caste, culture, it should be because, you care, you feel their pain, their loses, and never blame them for the atrocious, vile inhuman acts carried out by others. 

I wish sincerely that I one day get to help, and try and ease the suffering of thousands like Qari Ziyaad Patel ,his wife Ayesha, their team, and others.

Please share this post, it’s links, let’s start something that would make a difference.

With Peace 

RELATION OF FATHER AND DAUGHTER IN ISLAM

RELATION OF FATHER AND DAUGHTER IN ISLAM

Aalhamdolillah I have been blessed with an amazing father, who is my greatest support during my struggles in life, my greatest been of happiness during my triumphs in life. 

The reason for this sensitive topic is because I have being getting a lot of questions on the “Father -Daughter Relationship in Islam” 

In the Muslim community especially, this is an issue which has been overlooked, ignored, and generally treated with a sense of discomfort. Particularly amongst immigrant families, the relationship between a father and his daughter(s) is often a distant one; girls are encouraged to spend the most of their time with their mothers and other womenfolk.

 A girl might be “Daddy’s Little Princess” as a baby, a toddler, a child, but as she grows closer to puberty she will often find herself left at home instead of taken to the Masjid, attention deflected from her and turned towards her brothers instead (if she has any). Unfortunately, this is a practice which has extremely negative repercussions… for the fathers, the daughters, and indeed the Ummah at large.

 The role of a father in his daughter’s life is pivotal: he is the first man in her life; the one who teaches her what he, a male, thinks of her, a female; and thus shapes her sense of self-worth in the eyes of other men; the one whose behaviour and mannerisms will influence her mental image of “the perfect man” and her choice of life partner (i.e. husband).

In Islam as well as in psychology, the father is meant to be the daughter’s guardian, protecting her from harm, teaching her life skills and strong values. Yet despite all this, far too many fathers play a distant, secondary role in their daughter’s lives. There is a misconception that a father is merely the breadwinner, the supporter of the household, that his role is primarily that of financial provider rather than nurturer. After all, isn’t it the mother’s job to raise the children? Isn’t it the mother’s job to teach her daughters what it is to be a girl, a woman?

Yes, it is – but the mother is not a child’s only parent. She is equally the man’s progeny. His genes are present in her DNA, his flesh and blood are hers. When she looks at him, he is seeing a part of himself; in her behaviour is a reflection of his own attitude and mannerisms. How then can any father willingly minimize his role in his daughter’s life?

Mistakes Fathers Make

 · Not being actively involved from the beginning (birth). Hold your daughter. Carry her. Change her diapers. You can’t expect to develop a bond between yourself and your child if you don’t make the effort to create it. 

 · Not getting involved because you think you’re unprepared. Considering that you’ve already had experience with females thanks to your mother/ sister/ wife, you’re not as unprepared as you think you are, so relax. 

· Distancing yourself from her as she grows older. Girls become women. They change physically. It’s a fact of life, get used to it. Yes, puberty is uncomfortable for everyone involved, but denying it or ignoring it – or worse, ignoring her – just makes things worse. Nobody’s suggesting that you chat with your daughter about the details of her menstrual cycle, but it’d be a lot more helpful if you grabbed the Tylenol and handed her a hot water bottle instead of walking straight past her when you clearly know that she’s in pain. This is just one example of fathers’ denial about their daughters growing up; in truth, there are many ways that fathers demonstrate distance from their daughters. 

 · Having little to no physical contact. The idea that hugging, kissing, or having any other positive physical contact with your daughter is “wrong” or “not manly” is absolutely ridiculous. Not only that, but it’s extremely harmful to your daughter’s development as she grows older. Whether your daughter is five or fifteen, both of you should be comfortable enough to turn to each other for a hug (that lasts longer than five seconds) at any time. 

 · Little to no emotional communication. “Pass the salt” does not qualify as real communication. Make an effort to be involved in your daughter’s everyday life, whether it has to do with school and friends or just how she’s feeling on any given day. Building this bond will create a feeling of security and trust, and your daughter should be able to turn to you for help at times of emotional hurt and conflict. 

 · Not expressing pride in their daughters. Girls crave their father’s praise and approval just as much as boys do. Nothing can thrill a daughter more than knowing that her father sees his own good qualities in her, that he is really and truly proud of her and her accomplishments. 

The greatest, most perfect example of father-daughter relationships can be found in the history of Islam. Has there ever been a father more devoted, a daughter more adoring, than our beloved Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and Sayyidah Faatimah az-Zahraa’ (radhiAllahu anha)?

 We all know the stories:

 Young Faatimah, scarcely ten years old, wiping filth off of her father’s back and furiously berating the leaders of Quraysh for their behaviour.

 Faatimah, who used to weep at the sight of dust that was thrown upon her father’s head, and would be comforted with the words “Do not cry, my daughter, for Allah shall protect your father!” 

Faatimah, the apple of her father’s eye, of whom he said: “Whoever pleased Fatimah has indeed pleased God and whoever has caused her to be angry has indeed angered God. Fatimah is a part of me. Whatever pleases her pleases me and whatever angers her angers me.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3437; Muslim, 4483)

Noble Faatimah, one of the four greatest women in the world: “The best women in all the world are four: the Virgin Mary, Aasiyaa the wife of Pharoah, Khadijah Mother of the Believers, and Fatimah, daughter of Muhammad.” 

Faatimah, of whom A’isha (radhiAllahu anha) commented, “I have not seen any one of God’s creation resemble the Messenger of God more in speech, conversation and manner of sitting than Fatimah, may God be pleased with her. When the Prophet saw her approaching, he would welcome her, stand up and kiss her, take her by the hand and sit her down in the place where he was sitting.”

The entire Muslim Ummah has benefited directly from this unique father-daughter relationship. How many lessons have been derived from the Seerah, from incidents pertaining to this father and to this daughter?! How much knowledge, how much wisdom, was transmitted from father to daughter, and from that daughter to her own sons, al-Hassan and al-Hussein (radhiAllahu anhum)?! Yaa subhanAllah! How can we ever belittle, neglect, forget the importance of such a bond?

 O Muslim fathers, will you follow in the footsteps of the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alayi wa sallam)? Will you do what you can to help your daughter become the Faatimah az-Zahraa’ of today?

Minimum 35 Ways to Respect your Parents. 

Minimum 35 Ways to Respect your Parents. 
May Allah give us sense of ability to follow these guidelines. Aameen. 1. Put away your phone in their presence.

2. Pay attention to what they are saying.

3. Accept their opinions.

4. Engage in their conversations.

5. Look at them with respect.

6. Always praise them.

7. Share good news with them.

8. Avoid sharing bad news with them.

9. Speak well of their friends and loved ones to them.

10. Keep in remembrance the good things they did.

11. If they repeat a story, listen like it’s the first time they tell it.

12. Don’t bring up painful memories from the past.

13. Avoid side conversations in their presence.

14. Sit respectfully around them.

15. Don’t belittle/criticize their opinions and thoughts.

16. Avoid cutting them off when they speak.

17. Respect their age.

18. Avoid disciplining their grandchildren around them.

19. Accept their advice and direction.

20. Give them the power of leadership when they are present.

21. Avoid raising your voice at them.

22. Avoid walking in front or ahead of them.

23. Avoid eating before them.

24. Avoid glaring at them.

25. Fill them with your appreciation even when they don’t think they deserve it.

26. Avoid putting your feet up in front of them or sitting with your back to them.

27. Don’t speak ill of them to the point where others speak ill of them too.

28. Keep them in your prayers always possible.

29. Avoid seeming bored or tired of them in their presence.

30. Avoid laughing at their faults/mistakes.

31. Do a task before they ask you to.

32. Continuously visit them.

33. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them.

34. Call them by names they like.

35. Make them your priority above anything.

Parents are treasure on this land and sooner than you think, that treasure will be buried. Appreciate your parents while you still can.

Today lets make loads of duas for our beloved parents, alive or deceased.

“Ya Allah ease the burdens of our beloved parents, آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ 

Ya Allah remove their burdens due to debt, آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ 

Ya Allah ease their pain, آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ 

Ya Allah give shifa for the diseases they’re suffering from, آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ 

Ya Allah never make them dependent on anyone besides YOU until their last breath, آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ 

Ya Allah bless our parents with Happiness. آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ”

We should respect and honour our parents. Never hurt them, part of the reason of all the troubles they’re undergoing is due to us.

Their debts are due to fulfilling our needs,

Their poor health is due to their efforts in giving us the best,

Their every breath is a sacrifice made for their children…

Make a promise that u would at least do one thing today which will make YOUR parents happy.

That Letter “E”!!!

That Letter “E”!!!

In this world of E-mails, E-ticket, E-paper, E-recharge, E-transfer and the latest E-Governance…:

*Never Forget “E-shwar (God)” who makes E-verything E-asy for E-veryone E-veryday. “E” is the most Eminent letter in all most every situation.

*Men or Women don’t exist without “E”. *

House or Home can’t be made without “E”.

*Bread or Butter can’t be found without “E”.                             

“E” is the beginning of “Ethics” and end of “Life”

*It is beginning of “Existence” and the end of “Trouble.”

*It is beginning of “Evolve” and the beginning of “End”

*It’s not in ‘War’ but twice in ‘Peace’. *It’s once in ‘Hell’ but twice in ‘Heaven’.

*”E” represented ‘Emotions’

*Hence, all emotional relations like Father, Mother, Brother, Sister, Wife Friends have ‘E’ in them.

*”E” also represents ‘Effort’ ‘Energy’

*Without “E”, we would have no Love, Life, Wife, Friends or Hope.

*And ‘See’, ‘Hear’, ‘Smell’, or ‘Taste’ as ‘Eye’ ‘Ear’, ‘Nose’, Heart ‘Tongue’ are incomplete without “e”.                                 

Henceforth GO with “E” but without E-GO.

Mistakes Are Ok… WHEN????

Mistakes Are Ok… WHEN????

We all have our own comfort levels when it comes to risk taking and the potential for making mistakes.

BUT WHEN ARE MISTAKES OK, IN OUR LIVES???

Mistakes are OK if we learn from them: Remember that one of the best opportunities to learn is when we do something wrong – when we make a mistake. If you reduce the opportunities for mistakes you seriously limit your learning opportunities.

Mistakes are OK if they aren’t repeated: So you make a mistake once, learn from it. If it is a repeated mistake, it is less valuable as a learning experience (unless you’re trying to learn the mistake). In fact anything you did learn from the first mistake, likely will be lost with the repeat performance.

Mistakes are OK if they are done in pursuit of your goals and objectives: To achieve any worthy goal or objective different things must be tried.

Mistakes are OK if they don’t conflict with your values: If your values safety and the mistake put you at a physical risk, then that mistake isn’t advisable. But if no laws are broken and no values are violated, a mistake shouldn’t carry major repercussions.

Alphabet of Happiness…

Alphabet of Happiness…

A–Accept Accept others for who they are and for the choices they’ve made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.

B–Break Away Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.

C–Create  a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.

D–Decide  that you’ll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.

E–Explore  and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you’ll learn more about yourself.

F–Forgive  and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.

G–Grow up leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.

H–Hope  for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.

I–Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.

J–Journey  to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you’ll grow.

K–Know that no matter how bad things seem, they’ll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.

L–Love Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there’s room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there’s room for endless happiness.

M–Manage  your time and your expenses wisely, and you’ll suffer less stress and worry. Then you’ll be able to focus on the important things in life.

N–Never  ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.

O–Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there’s still much to be thankful for.

P–Play, never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.

Q–Question Ask many questions, because you’re here to learn.

R–Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.

S–Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.

T–Try anyway, even when your dreams seem impossible to reach. You’ll be amazed by what you can accomplish.

U–Use  your gifts to your best ability. Talent that’s wasted has no value. Talent that’s used will bring unexpected rewards.

V–Value  family members and the friends who’ve supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.

W–Work  hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.

X–X-Ray Look deep inside like X-Ray in the hearts of those around you and you’ll see the goodness and beauty within.

Y–Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you’ll find success at the end of the road.

Z–Zoom  to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.

 

Islam is…

Islam is…

Islam Is A Religion Of Ease,

Islam Is Nor Human Please Or Tease,

Islam Is A Way Of Life,

Islam Is Not Violence With Knife,

Islam Is A Religion Of Love,

Islam Is Based On Trust In Allah Like A Dove,

Islam Is Helping The Poor Give Money,

Islam Is Tasting Sweetness Of Iman Like Honey,

Islam Is Based On Brotherhood,

Islam Is An Ummah Unite We Should,

Islam Is A Smile,

Islam Is Help A Friend Phone And Dial,

Islam Is Rememberance Of Allah Who Is Ar-Rahman,Ar-Rahim,

Islam Is Obtaining Your Islam Potential We Work We Dream,

Islam Is Having Taqwa And Showing Patience By Striving,

Islam Is Nor Rage Like Fire Or Anger By Diving,

Islam Is Bulit Upon 5 Pillars,

Islam Is Praising Allah During Hardships The Killers,

Islam Is Reading/Implementing Hadith And Quran,

Islam Is Staying Away From Haram,

Islam Is Buliding Good Deeds Till Death,

Islam Is Repenting Till Last Breath,

Islam Is The Light,

Islam Is Key To Success Subhanallah So Bright,

Islam Is Praising Allah When Low Or High,

Islam Is Loving Animals,Insects Especially Fly,

Islam Is Truth Allah’s Pleasure We Creed,

Islam Is Nor Arrogance Or Greed,

Islam Is Full Time Submission Not Part Time,

Islam Is Sweet As Sugar Not Sour As Lime,

Islam Is For Young,Old And Teen,

Islam Is For All Where Have You Been???