SEVEN HABITS TO GIVE UP NOW IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE HAPPINESS 

SEVEN HABITS TO GIVE UP NOW  IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE HAPPINESS 


1. Give up our need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress & pain, for us & for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever we feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right & who is wrong, ask yourself this question:

 “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”

  “Is it really worth it to cause a strain in my relationship just so that I’m right?”

 “Will it really make a difference?”

2. Give up our need for control

Be willing to give up our need to always control everything that happens to us & around us – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers we meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything & everyone to be just as they are & we will see how much better that will make us feel.

3. Give up on blame

Give up on our need to blame others for what we have or don’t have, for what we feel or don’t feel. Stop giving our powers away. Accept when something has happened & start taking responsibility. Make everything that happens work out for the better.

Remember on the Day of Qiyaamah, we will stand alone & be held accountable for own deeds with no one to blame. 

4. Give up our self-defeating self-talk

STOP all the negative, repetitive, polluted & self-defeated whispers & thoughts. We hurt & damage ourselves when we listen to all those negative thoughts which is essentially Shaytaan bringing us down to destroy us . We are better than that, an amazing creation of اللّه  . Let’s fill our minds with His love, His Mercy, with His Greatness.

5. Give up on our limiting beliefs

There is nothing we cannot do, there is nothing impossible for us to achieve.We have the weapon of dua & the blessing of health & the faculties of our amazing mind & powerful body. Don’t allow our limiting beliefs to keep us stuck in the wrong place. Spread our wings & fly! 

We were meant for greatness. When we tread in the footsteps of the greatest man, Rasulullah sallallaahu alayhi wasallam who’s every facet of life is a blueprint for us to follow, then our present & our future becomes filled with greatness.

6. Give up complaining

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad & depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you , but how you choose to look at it. Say Alhamdulilah & mean it with every fibre of your being. There’s goodness in every situation. Just because you can’t see it, it doesn’t mean it’s not there. Remember اللّه  is the most Perfect of Planners. 

7. Give up criticizing

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you or think differently than you.Yes we are all different, but yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love & be loved & we all want to be understood. Our hearts yearn for similar things.

Stay Away From Anger..

 Stay away from Anger.. 

  It hurts ..Only You! 

 If you are right then there is no need to get angry, 

 And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry. 

 Patience with family is love,

 Patience with others is respect. 

 Patience with self is confidence and Patience with Allah is faith. 

 Never Think Hard about the PAST, It brings Tears…

 Don’t think more about the FUTURE, It brings Fear… 

 Live this Moment with a Smile,It brings Cheer.

 Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,

 Every problem comes to make us or break us, 

The choice is ours whether we become victims or victorious.

 Beautiful things are not always good but good things are always beautiful.

 Do you know why Allah created gaps between fingers? 

 So that someone who is special to you comes and fills those gaps by holding your hand forever.

 Happiness keeps You Sweet..But being sweet brings happiness..

Our Tongue Can Be Our Worst Enemy

                                            Our Tongue Can Be Our Worst Enemy

Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life. What you speak about, you can bring about.

a) If you keep saying you can’t stand your job, you might lose your job.
b) If you keep saying you can’t stand your body, your body can become sick.
c) If you keep saying that you are sick or ill, guess what you will stay sick or ill.
d) If you keep saying you can’t stand your car, your car could be stolen or just stop operating.
e) If you keep saying you’re broke, guess what? You’ll always be broke.
f) If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or trust a woman, you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you. If you keep saying you can’t find a job, you will remain unemployed.
g) If you keep saying you can’t find someone to love you or believe in you. Your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs

“If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”

My 20 Rules….

My 20 Rules….

  1. When you want something, the whole universe conspires to make it happen, And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
  2. Detach from all things and you will be free.
  3. We are all here for a purpose: No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn’t know it. Everybody has a creative potential and from the moment you can express this creative potential, you can start changing the world.
  4. The only thing standing between you and your dream are your fears: “Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
  5. Mistakes are part of life: Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?
  6. Every experience, either good or bad, comes with a lesson: There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there.
  7. When you change, the whole world changes with you. When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
  8. Mind your own business. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
  9. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive. No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it.
  10. Wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure. Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
  11. Judge not. We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
  12. Children have valuable lessons to teach you. A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.
  13. Nobody’s responsible for how you feel or don’t feel. In love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each responsible for our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel.
  14. Your beliefs shape you and make you who you are. You are what you believe yourself to be.
  15. Let go of the need to explain yourself. Don’t explain. Your friends do not need it, and your enemies will not believe you.
  16. Don’t mistake elegance with superficiality. Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion, lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium and harmony.
  17. When you do work from your soul, the critics won’t hurt you. I write from my soul. This is the reason that critics don’t hurt me, because it is me. If it was not me, if I was pretending to be someone else, then this could unbalance my world, but I know who I am.
  18. Each day brings a miracle of its own. You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one; each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.
  19. Embrace your authenticity you are someone who is different, but who wants to be the same as everyone else. And that in my view is a serious illness. Allah (God) chose you to be different. Why are you disappointing Allah (God) with this kind of attitude? You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent.
  20. The most important RULE:  RESPECT ONE RULE :NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF!!!  

 

That Letter “E”!!!

That Letter “E”!!!

In this world of E-mails, E-ticket, E-paper, E-recharge, E-transfer and the latest E-Governance…:

*Never Forget “E-shwar (God)” who makes E-verything E-asy for E-veryone E-veryday. “E” is the most Eminent letter in all most every situation.

*Men or Women don’t exist without “E”. *

House or Home can’t be made without “E”.

*Bread or Butter can’t be found without “E”.                             

“E” is the beginning of “Ethics” and end of “Life”

*It is beginning of “Existence” and the end of “Trouble.”

*It is beginning of “Evolve” and the beginning of “End”

*It’s not in ‘War’ but twice in ‘Peace’. *It’s once in ‘Hell’ but twice in ‘Heaven’.

*”E” represented ‘Emotions’

*Hence, all emotional relations like Father, Mother, Brother, Sister, Wife Friends have ‘E’ in them.

*”E” also represents ‘Effort’ ‘Energy’

*Without “E”, we would have no Love, Life, Wife, Friends or Hope.

*And ‘See’, ‘Hear’, ‘Smell’, or ‘Taste’ as ‘Eye’ ‘Ear’, ‘Nose’, Heart ‘Tongue’ are incomplete without “e”.                                 

Henceforth GO with “E” but without E-GO.

A Story With A Moral- Hardships

A Story With A Moral- Hardships 

There was a couple who used to go to shop in the beautiful stores. They both liked antiques and pottery and especially teacups.

One day in this beautiful shop they saw a beautiful teacup.

They said, “May we see that? We’ve never seen one quite so beautiful.”

As the lady handed it to them, suddenly the teacup spoke. “You don’t understand,” it said. “I haven’t always been a teacup. There was a time when I was red and I was clay.” My master took me and rolled me and patted me over and over and I yelled out, “let me alone”, but he only smiled, “Not yet.”

“Then I was placed on a spinning wheel,” the teacup said, “and suddenly I was spun around and around and around. Stop it! I’m getting dizzy!” I screamed. But the master only nodded and said, ‘Not yet.”

Then he put me in the oven. I never felt such heat. I wondered why he wanted to burn me, and I yelled and knocked at the door. I could see him through the opening and I could read his lips as He shook his head, “Not yet.”

Finally the door opened, he put me on the shelf, and I began to cool. “There, that’s better,” I said. And he brushed and painted me all over. The fumes were horrible. I thought I would gag. “Stop it, stop it!” I cried. He only nodded, “Not yet.”

Then suddenly he put me back into the oven, not like the first one. This was twice as hot and I knew I would suffocate. I begged. I pleaded. I screamed. I cried. All the time I could see him through the opening nodding his head saying, “Not yet.”

Then I knew there wasn’t any hope. I would never make it. I was ready to give up. But the door opened and he took me out and placed me on the shelf. One hour later he handed me a mirror and said, “Look at yourself.”

And I did. I said, “That’s not me; that couldn’t be me. It’s beautiful. I’m beautiful.”

“I want you to remember,” then he said “I know it hurts to be rolled and patted, but if I had left you alone, you’d have dried up. I know it made you dizzy to spin around on the wheel, but if I had stopped, you would have crumbled. I knew it hurt and was hot and disagreeable in the oven, but if I hadn’t put you there, you would have cracked. I know the fumes were bad when I brushed and painted you all over, but if I hadn’t done that, you never would have hardened; you would not have had any color in your life. And if I hadn’t put you back in that second oven, you wouldn’t survive for very long because the hardness would not have held. Now you are a finished product. You are what I had in mind when I first began with you.”

Moral:  The MORAL that I have taken from this story into my own life is that: Allah knows what He’s doing (for all of us). He will mould us and make us, So that we may be made into a flawless piece of work — to fulfill His good, pleasing, and perfect will. So, face every hardship with a Smile! The Creator knows it all, and knows the Best!

The Perfect Gifts That Cost Nothing

The Perfect Gifts That Cost Nothing

  • LISTENING.. But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.
  • AFFECTION.. Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.
  • LAUGHTER.. Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”
  • A WRITTEN NOTE… It can be a simple “Thanks for the help” note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.
  • A COMPLIMENT… A simple and sincere, “You look great in red” “You did a super job” or “That was a wonderful meal” can make someone’s day.
  • A FAVOR… Whenever there is the chance, share a small random act of kindness.
  • SOLITUDE.. There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times, and give the gift of solitude to others.
  • A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION… The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone. It’s as easy as saying you are great or thank you