SEVEN HABITS TO GIVE UP NOW IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE HAPPINESS
1. Give up our need to always be right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress & pain, for us & for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever we feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right & who is wrong, ask yourself this question:
“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
“Is it really worth it to cause a strain in my relationship just so that I’m right?”
“Will it really make a difference?”
2. Give up our need for control
Be willing to give up our need to always control everything that happens to us & around us – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers we meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything & everyone to be just as they are & we will see how much better that will make us feel.
3. Give up on blame
Give up on our need to blame others for what we have or don’t have, for what we feel or don’t feel. Stop giving our powers away. Accept when something has happened & start taking responsibility. Make everything that happens work out for the better.
Remember on the Day of Qiyaamah, we will stand alone & be held accountable for own deeds with no one to blame.
4. Give up our self-defeating self-talk
STOP all the negative, repetitive, polluted & self-defeated whispers & thoughts. We hurt & damage ourselves when we listen to all those negative thoughts which is essentially Shaytaan bringing us down to destroy us . We are better than that, an amazing creation of اللّه . Let’s fill our minds with His love, His Mercy, with His Greatness.
5. Give up on our limiting beliefs
There is nothing we cannot do, there is nothing impossible for us to achieve.We have the weapon of dua & the blessing of health & the faculties of our amazing mind & powerful body. Don’t allow our limiting beliefs to keep us stuck in the wrong place. Spread our wings & fly!
We were meant for greatness. When we tread in the footsteps of the greatest man, Rasulullah sallallaahu alayhi wasallam who’s every facet of life is a blueprint for us to follow, then our present & our future becomes filled with greatness.
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad & depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you , but how you choose to look at it. Say Alhamdulilah & mean it with every fibre of your being. There’s goodness in every situation. Just because you can’t see it, it doesn’t mean it’s not there. Remember اللّه is the most Perfect of Planners.
7. Give up criticizing
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you or think differently than you.Yes we are all different, but yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love & be loved & we all want to be understood. Our hearts yearn for similar things.
Muslimah 