Marriage Its Bliss And Bumps

Marriage Its Bliss And Bumps

Is marriage a bed of roses? That would depend I would say, because a bed of roses is very beautiful to look at and admire, but it takes a tremendous amount of hard work and patience to cultivate the perfect bed of roses.

In the same way a happy marriage will not just happen, you have to make it happen, you have to work at a marriage day in and day out, that’s why it’s called a “Labour of love”. Marriage is all about what we bring into it. The baggage that we carry as well as our character, how we conduct ourselves, our modesty and chastity also plays a role.

 Common problems faced by couples: The major problem within a marriage is that we depend on the other person for our happiness. We need to set the tone – the mood – we need to create an inner peace and this is what will give us happiness. We want and we expect the other person to validate us, to give us our self worth and to make us eternally happy. This goes for both parties, and when this doesn’t happen then they start blaming each other. They feel that their physical and emotional needs are not fulfilled. Once they start blaming each other they start looking outside the marriage for fulfillment. But the answer to this problem does not lie outside the marriage, it lies in what happens before the marriage and it lies within it.

Solution to this problem:

• It lies in learning to love and understand the person you are married to.
• To be affectionate and attentive to the other persons needs, moods spoken and unspoken.
• To respect the other persons boundaries and sensitivities.
• Develop ourselves spiritually so that we have contentment within ourselves.

 What are the ingredients for a good marriage?

• Piety
• Commitment
• Patience
• Effort
• Wisdom.

These are the ingredients for a happy and successful marriage. These are the factors which can turn the marriage into a blissful rose garden.

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Top 10 Most Common Regrets in Life

Top 10 Most Common Regrets in Life

The life we live is the legacy we leave behind. Everyday counts for something, and every relationship has meaning. No one wants to live in mediocrity, with their dreams and aspirations deteriorating behind the façade of a day to day rat race. At the end of life, many people express regrets, wishing for a second chance to get it right. In reality, there is no second chance; we have to get it right the first time. These are the top ten regrets most likely to change the course of someone’s life.

1) Never Resolving a Conflict:

The number one regret a person can have is not resolving a conflict. Countless funerals are full of regretful friends and family that never got the chance to right a wrong. Bitterness can sour a lifetime of memories, wedging itself in between relationships and people that love each other. Don’t let anger last a lifetime.

2) Not Spending Enough Family Time:

For many people sending their kids off to college, or watching them get married can conjure thoughts of times growing up as a young family. Often work can come in the way of family time, resulting in distance between husbands, wives and children. Inserting a family day into a weekly schedule and making time for family vacations each year can prevent a person from having such a strong regret.

3) Not Landing a Dream Job:

Going to college for years and getting a degree leads a person to begin seeking work in the field of their dreams. However, often employers are not hiring in limited fields, leaving post grads to find work in other occupations. What starts out as temporary can become permanent, with salaries and benefits luring employees into a lifelong commitment to a single company. While the money may be great, a job can feel like a rut if it isn’t the job you longed for.

4) Not Saving Enough Money:

For many people in their twenties or thirties, retirement seems like a distant future, not an impending reality. They may choose to defer retirement savings into other purchases for immediate gratification. This can turn into a disaster during the golden years, when money can often be tight. This is an easy regret to avoid by setting up automated investments into an IRA throughout the working years.

5) Not Having Children:

Children are often viewed as distractions or inconveniences, getting in the way of careers and personal goals. Though it may seem like a good idea to not have kids, the choice can leave a person very lonely as they begin to age. It is a natural human desire to wish to leave a heritage with descendants, so be careful in choosing to put off having children.

6) Never Taking up a Sport or Hobby:

Countless little boys spend their youth community sports, dreaming of one day playing for a professional league. Though not everyone has what it takes to be a professional, there are other ways to incorporate a passion for sports or other hobbies such as taking on a second language.

7) Never Telling Someone You Love Them:

There is nothing like going to the grave, remembering “the one that got away.” Sometimes it can be hard to express true feelings for someone if the outcome could mean rejection. However, holding it all inside will leave heart aching for closure. It is better to share your heart with a loved one, rather than miss out on a chance at happiness.

8) Never Traveling:

Growing up, most people dream of visiting an exotic island, backpacking through Europe, experiencing the Great Wall of China, or finding love in the city of Paris. Travel is a healthy ambition that creates memories to last a lifetime. Failing to travel to a dream destination can leave a lifetime of regrets. Don’t let financial circumstances or life events keep you from visiting the places that you love.

9) Never Getting a Degree:

A small percentage of people successfully graduate high school, go to college, and acquire the degree that they set out for. Life circumstances can get in the way, with some students quitting college to get married, have children or go to work, never returning to school. For people who take pride in education and intelligence, having a degree is proof of their capabilities and accomplishment. It is never too late to go back to school and get the degree you always wanted.

10) Never Buying the dream home

Everyone has an idea of the perfect home in the perfect location.One of the biggest regrets a person can have is not raising a family in the dream location they once desired