Stay Away From Anger..

 Stay away from Anger.. 

  It hurts ..Only You! 

 If you are right then there is no need to get angry, 

 And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry. 

 Patience with family is love,

 Patience with others is respect. 

 Patience with self is confidence and Patience with Allah is faith. 

 Never Think Hard about the PAST, It brings Tears…

 Don’t think more about the FUTURE, It brings Fear… 

 Live this Moment with a Smile,It brings Cheer.

 Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,

 Every problem comes to make us or break us, 

The choice is ours whether we become victims or victorious.

 Beautiful things are not always good but good things are always beautiful.

 Do you know why Allah created gaps between fingers? 

 So that someone who is special to you comes and fills those gaps by holding your hand forever.

 Happiness keeps You Sweet..But being sweet brings happiness..

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Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon

Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon

1. The average human life is relatively short: We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is. LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself: Your life is yours alone, Remember the only other “BEING” you belong and are accountable to is Allah (God) Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense. Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end. And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.

3. Being busy does NOT mean being productive: Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time. We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should. Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days. Just take a quick look around. Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin. Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations. Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But it’s all an illusion. They’re like hamsters running on a wheel. Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

4. Some kind of failure always occurs before success: Most mistakes are unavoidable. Learn to forgive yourself. It’s not a problem to make them. It’s only a problem if you never learn from them. If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful. The solution to this problem is making friends with failure. You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner? The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us. Bottom line: Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will. Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.

5. Thinking and doing are two very different things: Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it. You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. Knowledge is basically useless without action. Good things don’t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals. Ask yourself what’s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer. And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.

6. You don’t have to wait for an apology to forgive: Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative. It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.” It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head. Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

7. Some people are simply the wrong match for you: You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down. You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material. If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them. If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition. There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self. It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.

8. It’s not other people’s job to love you; it’s yours: It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth, even if they don’t. Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are. Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU.

9. What you own is not who YOU are. Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person. Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need. That’s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences. You have to create your own culture. Don’t watch TV, don’t read every fashion magazine, and don’t consume too much of the evening news. Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences. The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if you’re worrying about everyone else then you are disempowered. What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc. Too often we’re told that we’re not important, we’re just peripheral to what is. “Get a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.” And it’s sad, because someday you’ll wake up and realize you’ve been tricked. And all you’ll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of the brainwashers who want to turn you into a drone that buys everything that isn’t needed to impress everyone that isn’t important.

10. Everything changes, every second: Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason. It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now. Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swivelled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it. Don’t go looking for something better every second.

 

Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.

 

My 20 Rules….

My 20 Rules….

  1. When you want something, the whole universe conspires to make it happen, And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
  2. Detach from all things and you will be free.
  3. We are all here for a purpose: No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn’t know it. Everybody has a creative potential and from the moment you can express this creative potential, you can start changing the world.
  4. The only thing standing between you and your dream are your fears: “Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
  5. Mistakes are part of life: Everything tells me that I am about to make a wrong decision, but making mistakes is just part of life. What does the world want of me? Does it want me to take no risks, to go back to where I came from because I didn’t have the courage to say “yes” to life?
  6. Every experience, either good or bad, comes with a lesson: There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there.
  7. When you change, the whole world changes with you. When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
  8. Mind your own business. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
  9. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive. No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it.
  10. Wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure. Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
  11. Judge not. We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
  12. Children have valuable lessons to teach you. A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.
  13. Nobody’s responsible for how you feel or don’t feel. In love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each responsible for our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel.
  14. Your beliefs shape you and make you who you are. You are what you believe yourself to be.
  15. Let go of the need to explain yourself. Don’t explain. Your friends do not need it, and your enemies will not believe you.
  16. Don’t mistake elegance with superficiality. Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion, lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium and harmony.
  17. When you do work from your soul, the critics won’t hurt you. I write from my soul. This is the reason that critics don’t hurt me, because it is me. If it was not me, if I was pretending to be someone else, then this could unbalance my world, but I know who I am.
  18. Each day brings a miracle of its own. You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one; each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.
  19. Embrace your authenticity you are someone who is different, but who wants to be the same as everyone else. And that in my view is a serious illness. Allah (God) chose you to be different. Why are you disappointing Allah (God) with this kind of attitude? You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent.
  20. The most important RULE:  RESPECT ONE RULE :NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF!!!  

 

ENOUGH WITH BEING SILENT!

ENOUGH WITH BEING SILENT!

Courage is the ability to face danger, uncertainty or pain without being paralyzed by fear.

ENOUGH WITH BEING SILENT:

If you’re experiencing problems with getting results in regards to your Money, family, agreement or questions

– Stand Up and speak up.

If someone is taking advantage of your time, money, body, trust, love or Friendship

– Stand Up and speak up.

If someone is taking your kindness for weakness

– Stand Up and speak up.

If you’re feeling pressured to do something against your values or time constraints

– Stand up and speak up.

If you are not clear and feeling anxious about what others are asking or expecting from you

– Stand Up and speak Up.

If you want to turn your life around in a positive direction

– Stand Up and speak up.

If there is something in life you want to accomplish

– Stand up and speak up.

If you need help

– Stand Up and speak up.

If you see injustice or a need

Stand Up and speak up.

Mistakes Are Ok… WHEN????

Mistakes Are Ok… WHEN????

We all have our own comfort levels when it comes to risk taking and the potential for making mistakes.

BUT WHEN ARE MISTAKES OK, IN OUR LIVES???

Mistakes are OK if we learn from them: Remember that one of the best opportunities to learn is when we do something wrong – when we make a mistake. If you reduce the opportunities for mistakes you seriously limit your learning opportunities.

Mistakes are OK if they aren’t repeated: So you make a mistake once, learn from it. If it is a repeated mistake, it is less valuable as a learning experience (unless you’re trying to learn the mistake). In fact anything you did learn from the first mistake, likely will be lost with the repeat performance.

Mistakes are OK if they are done in pursuit of your goals and objectives: To achieve any worthy goal or objective different things must be tried.

Mistakes are OK if they don’t conflict with your values: If your values safety and the mistake put you at a physical risk, then that mistake isn’t advisable. But if no laws are broken and no values are violated, a mistake shouldn’t carry major repercussions.

Remember Good Habitats To Be A Good Leader

Remember Good Habitats To Be A Good Leader

  • Remember to offer kindness: Cruel comments, sarcasm and harsh criticism never make anyone’s day better. And being ignored can come off as the worst sort of mean. Being mindful of others’ feelings is critical for a great leader to build a productive environment. The team will build a culture that follows the leader’s demeanour. Treated them with care and consideration even when they mess up. Then they will remember to do the same.
  • Remember to offer respect: People on the team need to feel that you value their skills and knowledge. If you treat them like children, they will act like children, or worse. Great leaders remember to let their teams know they are valued, because words, tone and gestures will show it. Everyone from the cleaning person to the top executive deserves certain basic courtesies, including a cordial greeting, a present moment of your attention and the acknowledgement of their efforts.
  • Remember to offer patience: Great leaders maintain their own sanity and that of others by managing impatience, especially their own. This is the era of instant gratification, and most people want things done as quickly as possible. But an immediate response or solution is not always available. Recognize that many aspects of a project will take time to develop, or that an answer may take 24 hours or more to find. Set an agreed upon plan with reasonable expectations even when pressured. It’s ok to stay in touch while waiting, but avoid pestering others, berating them or getting in the way.
  • Remember to offer humour: When all else fails, we have laughter. Laughing can relieve a lot of tension and do a great deal to help people who are ready to give up. People value leaders who can make the negatives seem less daunting with a joke. Laughter is not a substitute for persistence and hard work, of course. But the judicious use of humour can do a lot to put things in perspective. Oh yeah, and lots of humour makes work more fun as well.
  • Remember to offer truth: No one is served by quiet politeness, or outright lies. It’s hard to hear the truth sometimes especially when you are emotionally invested in a project that is off track. But great leaders know how to deliver truth in a straightforward way that helps people move forward. You can be frank without being mean, petty or harsh. And the detriments of avoidable failure due to silence or candy coating far outweigh the harshness and pain of learning the truth.
  • Remember to offer encouragement: Nothing saps energy like the feeling of being lost or out of options. When people are running out of energy or feeling down, great leaders take notice and remember how to get people back on track. You can describe what you like/admire about them. Remind them of the strengths and skills they can bring to the table. If cheerleading isn’t enough, roll up your sleeves and get into problem solving with them.
  • Remember to offer gratitude: People feed on acknowledgement. Just saying “thank you” when someone holds the door can affirm that positive behaviour. And when you hold the door yourself…it tells the other person that you value them and want to meet their needs. Great leaders remember to be grateful for the efforts others make on their behalf. Be watching for opportunities to do small, thoughtful things for others that demonstrate how much you appreciate their efforts.
  • Remember to offer hope: When times seem harsh and bleak, great leaders remember that they are great leaders and it is their responsibility to offer the path forward. During the worst times, people want to believe that life will get better, that everything will improve, and that growth/progress/success is in their grasp. Let people know that you believe in them, that your expectations are high and that they should keep trying.

Be Positive In Your Life

Be Positive In Your Life

Do not take life so seriously! Learn to laugh at the little things and everything will be much easier. Life is simple, it was designed that way. Add a dash of seriousness here and there and starts to get complicated. The more we think about life, the more meaningless it becomes. Life has no purpose except for the purpose we give it. It is simply a choice. Turn left, right, go backward or forward. When we lose sight, we miss the freedom of the options we have. We become fearful and anxious.

Think positive. A Mental Attitude positive attitude is correct in a given situation. It is an extreme optimistic notion that everything goes well just by looking at the bright side of things. Rather, it is a conscious way to replace negative thoughts that lead you nowhere with positive thoughts, allowing us to realize ourselves. It is a time to practice every moment until you replace self-doubt with confidence and it becomes a habit. As the muscles get stronger when we exercise, so does the mind.

Forgiveness. Remember that you do not forgive the other person well but to rid yourself of anger, negative thoughts, to stop being loading damage. You have to keep in mind that they act the way you see things, if someone made you aware damage or unconsciously choose to forgive, you free yourself to forgive yourself is self-love.

Learn to control your thoughts. Thoughts are the first step to make things happen. While the human mind is described as a stream of consciousness, that does not mean you cannot decide where to direct current flowing. I agree it is one of the most difficult steps and time consuming.

Learn to control your emotions. The only person who can make you unhappy is yourself! You’re the one that decides to be affected by the words and actions of others. Realize this so that the next time you experience a negative emotion, you find the strength within yourself to overcome it.

Limit the loss of time online. The Internet is an awesome tool, but sometimes we can spend tons of time. It is a lie that Facebook or Twitter are lost time, the lost time we do it. So for those who cannot help themselves, no extensions.

Displays every day. It has been said and proven time and again that what you focus on is what you get. If you complain all the time, obviously you get more things which you complain. The same goes for good things like health, wealth and happiness. So spend some time in the morning and imagine yourself achieving what you want most. Focus is key in this exercise, so choose a quiet place where you are not disturbed.

Do not depend on anyone emotionally. There are three types of social dependence, economic and emotional: On the emotional is impressive as there is so much dependent people, both men and women in the relationship and to any displeasure express phrases like “if you leave I die” “My life has no meaning if you are not”, “You are my breath, if they do not break.” That’s called blackmail or fear.

Do not compare yourself to others. It’s true, sometimes we admire certain qualities of others, but one thing to admire and one is wanting to be like somebody else. We all have different strengths and weaknesses to decide how to apply and where. Never believe someone more or less than others.

Do not resist. Instead of resisting certain situation, accept what is a fact, there are situations that however hard we try we can not change, your stress increases when you resist what happens to you and give more power to what we are resisting, accepting and drop your resistance, you regain your power. So at this point in your life what is important to let go? I speak not of resignation but initiate a solution to get what you do if you can control.

Consider abundant. First, understand that it is the abundance … Not having much money, it’s your natural state of being. By nature we are already abundant, what happens is that we lack your thoughts is what makes you look a reality with few options. Example: I have to work really very hard to get what I want in life. You have to find your passion and what makes you happy and the money will come as a result.When someone is working in a place that does not like or be studying something that fills you, but you have no choice, then you are playing the victim and as you sacrifice every day there will be abundance and there is no consistency in your life …

Do what you love to do

Conclusion:

These tips, which more than tips are habits have no doubt that it had read in another blog or in a book and surely have implemented, make us understand how to control our own lives, to have hands securely fastened the wheel of the car to decide where to direct it. By practicing these habits will strengthen others unconsciously as patience, will, among many and you will notice that you will be easier to accomplish anything. Of course there will be things you will not have control, but we will always be our own interpretation to see and know how to resolve these situations.

There is no formula for how to learn, of course there will be many authors describe how, but personally everyone has to find ways and realize that in order to achieve a habit first have to master another. You yourself know which. Remember that change is good and stagnation is bad. When you’re not moving or changing, when you realize that what you are creating is pain and suffering, understand that you yourself created that reality, then you will move and you will make a drastic change for the better. You will notice that a particular belief is that is causing you more harm than good, just trust that you will find a new and replace the following with the old.