Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others
In relationships with our loved ones, when looking at the other, sometimes positive emotions are generated and sometimes negative. On the one hand, joy, love and happiness is generated on being with them; but then attachment, dependency and expectations are generated.
In such situations, we are more focused on others and are always looking at the other person’s behaviour, we stop seeing ourselves and being aware of our reactions and taking the responsibility for the responses that we create.
We get frustrated when the other person does not meet our expectations. As we depend on them, if they don’t act as we would like, if they don’t reach home or call us at the time we would like; all this frustrates us. We radiate this energy to the other: “they are not doing what they should be doing,” and so we feel frustrated and discontented.
All the while that we hold the other one responsible for our frustration, we are not in charge of our own reactions, because we have given power to the other to dominate our emotional world. It is there that we lose our freedom. W lose your freedom because we give to the other, in the name of love, power over our own moods. We allow the others’ energy to enter our inner world and cause inside our frustration, bad moods, irritation, sorrow and a mental and emotional dependence where we are constantly thinking about where they are, what they have to do, what they have to say, where they have to go, and all this consumes a lot of our mental energy. Wanting to control the other and the frustration that it brings with it uses up a lot of emotional energy.
Never try to control other’s life e.g. some parents try to control their kids (life) even after their marriage and thus create lot of confusions. Instead of trying to change everyone, let us change ourselves to live a happy life as also allowing others!