Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others

Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others

In relationships with our loved ones, when looking at the other, sometimes positive emotions are generated and sometimes negative. On the one hand, joy, love and happiness is generated on being with them; but then attachment, dependency and expectations are generated.

 In such situations, we are more focused on others and are always looking at the other person’s behaviour, we stop seeing ourselves and being aware of our reactions and taking the responsibility for the responses that we create.

 We get frustrated when the other person does not meet our expectations. As we depend on them, if they don’t act as we would like, if they don’t reach home or call us at the time we would like; all this frustrates us. We radiate this energy to the other: “they are not doing what they should be doing,” and so we feel frustrated and discontented.

All the while that we hold the other one responsible for our frustration, we are not in charge of our own reactions, because we have given power to the other to dominate our emotional world. It is there that we lose our freedom. W lose your freedom because we give to the other, in the name of love, power over our own moods. We allow the others’ energy to enter our inner world and cause inside our frustration, bad moods, irritation, sorrow and a mental and emotional dependence where we are constantly thinking about where they are, what they have to do, what they have to say, where they have to go, and all this consumes a lot of our mental energy. Wanting to control the other and the frustration that it brings with it uses up a lot of emotional energy.

Never try to control other’s life e.g. some parents try to control their kids (life) even after their marriage and thus create lot of confusions. Instead of trying to change everyone, let us change ourselves to live a happy life as also allowing others!

6 comments on “Change Ourselves To Live A Happy Life As Also Allowing Others

  1. Foqia says:

    I always read your articles and most of the times i get food for my thoughts . . keep this good job up . May Allah bless you . . Ameen

  2. Asma says:

    Don’t you think you run through my mind ,,,, believe me I always wait for your message ,,,, and you always give my ans by nature

    • muslimah says:

      Lol sister, sometimes people connect through means of the unknown, I am glade that the post gives you answers you look for…. Comments like these gives me a lot of encouragement to carry on blogging, so thank you and all the readers that end me their comments and feed backs, I really do appreciate it :-) May Allah reward you all, please keep me and the Ummah in your duas.
      With love, and Duas.
      “O Allah, make my luv for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for mting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshiping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen

  3. saneea says:

    i love all ur articles…they are so relatable and awakening
    thank you so much
    May Allah grant you Jannah

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