Jealousy and Envy
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood.” (Abu Dawud)
Zubair bin al Awwam (RA) narrates that the Rasulullah (SAW) said: “There has come to you the
disease of the nations before you, jealousy and hatred. This is the ‘shaver’ (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (destroys) faith”. (This is a hadith hasan, Tirmidhi (2434))
Allah says: وَٱللَّهُ فَضَّلَ بَعۡضَكُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٍ۬ فِى ٱلرِّزۡقِۚ فَمَا ٱلَّذِينَ فُضِّلُواْ بِرَآدِّى رِزۡقِهِمۡ عَلَىٰ مَا مَلَڪَتۡ أَيۡمَـٰنُہُمۡ فَهُمۡ فِيهِ سَوَآءٌۚ أَفَبِنِعۡمَةِ ٱللَّهِ يَجۡحَدُونَ
“Allah favoured some of you over others with wealth and properties. Do they deny the favours of Allah?” (Surah an-Nahl 16: 71)
And in another verse: أَمۡ يَحۡسُدُونَ ٱلنَّاسَ عَلَىٰ مَآ ءَاتَٮٰهُمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضۡلِهِۦۖ فَقَدۡ ءَاتَيۡنَآ ءَالَ إِبۡرَٲهِيمَ ٱلۡكِتَـٰبَ وَٱلۡحِكۡمَةَ وَءَاتَيۡنَـٰهُم مُّلۡكًا عَظِيمً۬ا
“Do they envy men for what Allah has given them of His Bounty?” (Surah an Nisaa 4: 54)
Jealousy and malicious envy is one of the most abominable and destructive feelings one can have towards his fellow man. The jealous person is always restless, watching the objects of his jealousy,
wishing evil and misfortune to befall them, and when it befalls them, he is happy. Beloved brothers and sisters, this is so common in all nationalities and all spheres of life.
We find jealousy between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, siblings, students, friends. We smile at the objects of our jealousy in the presence of others and writhe in malicious envy to the point of
hatred behind the backs of those we wish we could be like, yet hate because we fall short.
Jealousy and malicious brings the jealous person close to kufr and shirk because it because the individual to feel that Allah has not been fair with him. “Why is she/he so beautiful?” “Why do they always have money?” “I wonder if she/he has any difficulties in her/he life because she/he always smiles, she/he makes me sick” etc…
The jealous one forgets all the mercy and blessings which Allah has bestowed upon him. Rasulullah (SAW) said: “They are enemies for Allah’s bounties.” Sahaabah (RA) asked: “Who are they?” Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Those who envy people for what Allah has given them of Bounty.” (At Tabarani)
How dare we think that Allah is unfair to us?! Allah is al ‘Adl!
What is this worldly beauty, fame and riches we burn for that we would wish harm on the sacred life of another Muslim?! Had Allah deemed it necessary to bestow you with another ni’mah, would not Allah have bestowed it upon you? What belongs to this transient world is of no significance before Allah.
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “If this world were worth a mosquito’s wing before Allah, He would not give a
disbeliever a drink of water.” (Tirmidhi).
The favours and bounties of Allah in this world is but a trial. The more the bounties, the more the tests, the more the reckoning.
So the next time we turn green with envy, let us remember that it is Allah who is the Bestower, The Giver, The Sustainer to whomsoever He wishes. And remember this hadith- Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Do not look to those above you. Look to those below you, as it will more likely remind you of Allah’s favours bestowed on you.” (Sahih al Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)
On another occasion, Rasulullah (SAW) said: “If one of you looks at someone wealthier and better built than him, he should also look at someone of lower standard than himself.” (Sahih Muslim)
Recite: قُلۡ أَعُوذُ بِرَبِّ ٱلۡفَلَقِ
“Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of the dawn from the evil of envious when he envies.” (Surah al-Falaq 113: 1)
Ghibtah- envy that is free from malice), is neither loving the loss of the blessing nor hating for it to remain with the person, but desiring the same for oneself without the removal of the blessing from
others. So this would be more like emulation where one would for example say with truthful tongue and pure heart “I wish I could be like her, she prays so much, or he is hafidh of Qur’an.”
Ghibtah is permissible according to ‘Ulama only in matters of Deen because it is not an insignificant, transitory thing of Dunya that one desires. As can be seen from the following hadith: Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Envy (Ghibtah) is allowed in two cases, in case of a man whom Allah has given the Qur’an and who recites it throughout night and day; and a man on whom Allah has bestowed wealth who gives it away throughout night and day.” (Sahih al Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)
Rasulullah (SAW) also explained what may be said: “I wish I were given what he was given and did with it what he did.”
“May Allah grant us all the hid ayah and taufeeq to be better Muslims to one another. May Allah cleanse our hearts from jealousy, malicious envy and hatred. May the Muslim Ummah be united as ONE. Aameen.”