Barakah – Hazrat Umm Ayman (RA)… The Unique And Special.
A young Abyssinian girl ended up for sale in Makkah. There were many like her, boys and girls, Arabs and non-Arabs, who were captured and brought to the slave market of the city to be sold. A terrible fate awaited some who ended up in the hands of cruel masters or mistresses who exploited their labour to the full and treated them with the utmost harshness. A few in that inhuman environment were rather more fortunate. They were taken into the homes of more gentle and caring people. Barakah, the young Abyssinian girl, was one of the more fortunate ones. She was saved by the generous and kind Abdullah, the son of Abdul-Muttalib. She became the only servant in his household and when he was married, to the lady Aminah, she looked after her affairs as well. Two weeks after the couple were married, according to Barakah, Abdullah’s father came to their house and instructed his son to go with a trading caravan that was leaving for Syria. Aminah was deeply distressed and cried: “How strange! How strange! How can my husband go on a trading journey to Syria while I am yet a bride and the traces of henna are still on my hands.” Abdullah’s departure was heartbreaking. In her anguish, Aminah fainted. Soon after he left, Barakah said: “When I saw Aminah unconscious, I shouted in distress and pain: ‘O my lady!’ Aminah opened her eyes and looked at me with tears streaming down her face. Suppressing a groan she said: “Take me to bed, Barakah.”
“Aminah stayed bedridden for a long time. She spoke to no one. Neither did she look at anyone who visited her except Abdul-Muttalib, that noble and gentle old man. “Two months after the departure of Abdullah, Aminah called me at dawn one morning and, her face beaming with joy, she said to me: “O Barakah! I have seen a strange dream.” “Something good, my lady,” I said.
“I saw lights coming from my abdomen lighting up the mountains, the hills and the valleys around Makkah.” “Do you feel pregnant, my lady?” “Yes, Barakah,” she replied. “But I do not feel any discomfort as other women feel.” “You shall give birth to a blessed child who will bring goodness,” I said.
So long as Abdullah was away, Aminah remained sad and melancholic. Barakah stayed at her side trying to comfort her and make her cheerful by talking to her and relating stories. Aminah however became even more distressed when Abdul-Muttalib came and told her she had to leave her home and go to the mountains as other Makkans had done because of an impending attack on the city by the ruler of Yemen, someone called Abraha. Aminah told him that she was too grief-stricken and weak to leave for the mountains but insisted that Abraha could never enter Makkah and destroy the Kaaba because it was protected by Almighty. Abdul-Muttalib became very agitated but there was no sign of fear on Aminah’s face. Her confidence that the Kaaba would not be harmed was well-founded. Abraha’s army with an elephant in the vanguard was destroyed before it could enter Makkah. Day and night, Barakah stayed beside Aminah. She said: “I slept at the foot of her bed and heard her groans at night as she called for her absent husband. Her moans would awaken me and I would try to comfort her and give her courage.”
The first part of the caravan from Syria returned and was joyously welcomed by the trading families of Makkah. Barakah went secretly to the house of Abdul-Muttalib to find out about Abdullah but had no news of him. She went back to Aminah but did not tell her what she had seen or heard in order not to distress her. The entire caravan eventually returned but not with Abdullah.
Later, Barakah was at Abdul-Muttalib’s house when news came from Medina that Abdullah had died. She said: “I screamed when I heard the news. I don’t know what I did after that except that I ran to Aminah’s house shouting, lamenting for the absent one who would never return, lamenting for the beloved one for whom we waited so long, lamenting for the most beautiful youth of Makkah, for Abdullah, the pride of the Quraish.
“When Aminah heard the painful news, she fainted and I stayed by her bedside while she was in a state between life and death. There was no one else but me in Aminah’s house. I nursed her and looked after her during the day and through the long nights until she gave birth to her child, “Muhammad”, on a night in which the heavens were resplendent with the light of Allah.” When Muhammad was born, Barakah was the first to hold him in her arms. His grandfather came and took him to the Kaaba and with all Makkah, celebrated his birth. Barakah stayed with Aminah while Muhammad was sent with the lady Halima who looked after him in the bracing atmosphere of the open desert. At the end of five years, he was brought back to Makkah and Aminah received him with tenderness and love and Barakah welcomed him “with joy, longing and admiration”. When Muhammad was six years old, his mother decided to visit the grave of her husband, Abdullah, in Medina. Both Barakah and Abdul-Muttalib tried to dissuade her. Aminah however was determined. So one morning they set off- Aminah, Muhammad and Barakah huddled together in a small hawdaj mounted on a large camel, part of a huge caravan that was going to Syria. In order to shield the tender child from any pain and worry, Aminah did not tell Muhammad that she was going to visit the grave of his father. The caravan went at a brisk pace. Barakah tried to console Aminah for her son’s sake and much of the time the boy Muhammad slept with his arms around Barakah’s neck. The caravan took ten days to reach Medina. The boy Muhammad was left with his maternal uncles of the Banu Najjar while Aminah went to visit the grave of Abdullah. Each day for a few weeks she stayed at the grave. She was consumed by grief. On the way back to Makkah, Aminah became seriously ill with fever. Halfway between Medina and Makkah, at a place called al-Abwa, they stopped. Aminah’s health deteriorated rapidly. One pitch dark night, she was running a high temperature. The fever had got to her head and she called out to Barakah in a choking voice.
Barakah related: “She whispered in my ear: ‘O Barakah, I shall depart from this world shortly. I commend my son Muhammad to your care. He lost his father while he was in my abdomen. Here he is now, losing his mother under his very eyes. Be a mother to him, Barakah. And don’t ever leave him.” “My heart was shattered and I began to sob and wail. The child was distressed by my wailing and began to weep. He threw himself into his mother’s arms and held tightly onto her neck. She gave one last moan and then was forever silent.” Barakah wept. She wept bitterly. With her own hands she dug a grave in the sand and buried Aminah, moistening the grave with whatever tears were left in her heart. Barakah returned with the orphan child to Makkah and placed him in the care of his grandfather. She stayed at his house to look after him. When Abdul-Muttalib died two years later, she went with the child to the house of his uncle Abu Talib and continued to look after his needs until he was grown up and married the lady Khadijah. Barakah then stayed with Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA) in a house belonging to Khadijah (RA). “I never left him and he never left me,” she said. One day Muhammad (SAW), called out to her and said: “Ya Ummah!” (He always called her “Mother”.) “Now I am a married man, and you are still unmarried. What do you think if someone should come now and ask to marry you?” Barakah looked at Muhammad (SAW) and said: “I shall never leave you. Does a mother abandon her son?” Muhammad (SAW) smiled and kissed her head. He looked at his wife Khadijah (RA) and said to her: “This is Barakah. This is my mother after my own mother. She is the rest of my family.” Barakah looked at the lady Khadijah (RA) who said to her: “Barakah, you have sacrificed your youth for the sake of Muhammad (SAW). Now he wants to pay back some of his obligations to you. For my sake and his, agree to be married before old age overtakes you.” M”Whom shall I marry, my lady?” asked Barakah. “There is here now Ubayd ibn Zayd from the Khazraj tribe of Medina. He has come to us seeking your hand in marriage. For my sake, don’t refuse.” Barakah agreed. She married Ubayd ibn Zayd and went with him to Medina. There she gave birth to a son whom she called Ayman and from that time onwards people called her “Umm Ayman” the mother of Ayman. Her marriage however did not last very long. Her husband died and she returned once more to Makkah to live with her “son” Muhammad in the house of the lady Khadijah. Living in the same household at the time were Ali ibn Abi Talib, Hind (Khadijah’s daughter by her first husband), and Zaid ibn Harith. Zaid was an Arab from the tribe of Kalb who was captured as a boy and brought to Makkah to be sold in the slave market. He was bought by Khadijah’s nephew and put in her service. In Khadijah’s (RA) household, Zaid became attached to Muhammad (SAW) and devoted himself to his service. Their relationship was like that of a son to a father. Indeed when Zaid’s father came to Makkah in search of him, Zaid was given the choice by Muhammad (SAW) of either going with his father or staying with him. Zaid’s reply to his father was: “I shall never leave this man. He has treated me nobly, as a father would treat his son. Not single days have I felt that I am a slave. He has looked after me well. He is kind and loving towards me and strives for my enjoyment and happiness. He is the most noble of men and the greatest person in creation. How can I leave him and go with you?…I shall never leave him.” Later, in public Muhammad (SAW) proclaimed the freedom of Zaid. However, Zaid continued to live with him as part of his household and devoted himself to his service. When Muhammad (SAW) was blessed with prophet hood, Barakah and Zaid were among the first to believe in the message he proclaimed. They bore with the early Muslims the persecution which the Quraish meted out to them. Barakah and Zaid performed invaluable services to the mission of Rasulullah (SAW). They acted as part of an intelligence service exposing themselves to the persecution and punishment of the Quraish and risking their lives to gain information on the plans and conspiracies of the mushrikin. One night the mushrikin blocked off the roads leading to the House of al-Arqam where Rasulullah (SAW) gathered his companions regularly to instruct them in the teachings of Islam. Barakah had some urgent information from Khadijah (RA) which had to be conveyed to Rasulullah (SAW). She risked her life trying to reach the House of al-Arqam. When she arrived and conveyed the message Rasulullah (SAW), he smiled and said to her: “You are blessed, Umm Ayman. Surely you have a place in Paradise.” When Umm Ayman left, Rasulullah (SAW) looked at his companions and asked: “Should one of you desire to marry a woman from the people of Paradise, let him marry Umm Ayman.” All the companions remained silent and did not utter a word. Umm Ayman was neither beautiful nor attractive. She was by now about fifty years old and looked rather frail. Zaid ibn al-Harithah however came forward and said: “Messenger of Allah, I shall marry Umm Ayman. By Allah, she is better than women who have grace and beauty.” Zaid and Umm Ayman were married and were blessed with a son whom they named Usamah. Rasulullah (SAW), loved Usamah as his own son. Often he played with him, kissed him and fed him with his own hands. The Muslims would say: “He is the beloved son of the beloved.” From an early age Usamah distinguished himself in the service of lslam, and was later given weighty responsibilities by Rasulullah (SAW).
When Rasulullah (SAW) migrated to Medina, he left Umm Ayman behind in Makkah to look after certain special affairs in his household. Eventually she migrated to Medina on her own. She made the long and difficult journey through the desert and mountainous terrain on foot. The heat was killing and sandstorms obscured the way but she persisted, borne along by her deep love and attachment Rasulullah (SAW) When she reached Medina, her feet were sore and swollen and her face was covered with sand and dust.
“Ya Umm Ayman! Ya Ummi! (O Umm Ayman! O my mother!) Indeed for you is a place in Paradise!” exclaimed Rasulullah (SAW) when he saw her. He wiped her face and eyes, massaged her feet and rubbed her shoulders with his kind and gentle hands.
At Medina, Umm Ayman played her full part in the affairs of the Muslims. At Uhud she distributed water to the thirsty and tended the wounded. She accompanied Rasulullah (SAW) on some expeditions, to Khaibar and Hunayn for example. Her son Ayman, a devoted companion of Rasulullah (SAW) was martyred at Hunayn in the eighth year after the Hijrah. Barakah’s husband, Zaid, was killed at the Battle of Mutah in Syria after a lifetime of distinguished service to Rasulullah (SAW) and Islam. Barakah at this time was about seventy years old and spent much of her time at home. Rasulullah (SAW), accompanied by Abu Bakr(RA) and Umar(RA) often visited her and asked: “Ya Ummi! Are you well?” and she would reply: “I am well, O Messenger of Allah so long as Islam is.”
Barakah was unique in that she was the only one who was so close to Rasulullah (SAW) throughout his life from birth till death. Her life was one of selfless service in Rasulullah (SAW) household. She remained deeply devoted to the person of the noble, gentle and caring Rasulullah (SAW). Above all, her devotion to the religion of Islam was strong and unshakable. She died during the caliphate of Uthman (RA) and her place in Paradise was assured.
BARAKAH, better known as Hazrat Umm Ayman (RA) is one of the very few persons, if not the only woman to have the special honour of having witnessed the different stages of the life Rasulullah (SAW) from before his birth, through his childhood – through his young and adult life through – to his demise.
A SPECIAL HONOUR INDEED !