Humbleness A Quality To Try And Acquire.
Humility is one of the greatest blessings that Allah can bestow upon His slave. He says:
فَبِمَا رَحۡمَةٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمۡۖ وَلَوۡ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ ٱلۡقَلۡبِ لَٱنفَضُّواْ مِنۡ حَوۡلِكَۖ فَٱعۡفُ عَنۡہُمۡ وَٱسۡتَغۡفِرۡ لَهُمۡ وَشَاوِرۡهُمۡ فِى ٱلۡأَمۡرِۖ فَإِذَا عَزَمۡتَ فَتَوَكَّلۡ عَلَى ٱللَّهِۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَوَكِّلِينَ
“It was by the mercy of Allah that thou wast lenient with them (O Muhammad), for if thou hadst been stern and fierce of heart they would have dispersed from round about thee. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult with them upon the conduct of affairs. And when thou art resolved, then put thy trust in Allah. Lo! Allah loveth those who put their trust (in Him).” (Surah al ‘Imraan 3:159)
وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلَىٰ خُلُقٍ عَظِيمٍ۬
“And thou (standest) on an exalted standard of character” (Surah al-Qalam 68:4)
This refers to Rasulullah (SAW) being a true slave of Allah in many ways and his treating all people with the utmost kindness. His character was one of complete humility based on sincerity towards Allaah and compassion towards the slaves of Allaah, which was the complete opposite of the characteristics of the proud and arrogant.
There are many means of attaining humility, which no Muslim adopts but he will attain this characteristic. They were explained by Imam Ibn al-Qayyim as follows:
“Humility comes from knowing about Allah and His names and attributes, and His greatness, venerating Him, loving Him and being in awe of Him; and also from knowing about oneself and one’s faults, and weaknesses. From that may develop the attitude of humility, which means feeling helpless before Allah, and being humble and compassionate towards His slaves, so that the person does not feel superior towards anyone, or think that he has any rights over anyone else; rather he thinks that others are better than him, and that their rights come before his. This is a characteristic that Allah gives to those whom He loves, honors and draws close to Him.”
There are many reports which speak of the reward of humility. Abu Hurairah (RA) that Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Wealth does not decrease because of charity, and Allah increases His slave in honour when he forgives others. And no one humbles himself before Allah but Allaah will raise him (in status).” (Muslim)
Al-Nawawi included it in a chapter entitled: “The recommendation of forgiveness and humility. Al-Nawawi said: Rasulullah (SAW) said: “And no one humbles himself before Allah but Allah will raise him (in status).” This is understood in two ways: the 1st is that He will raise him (in status) in this world, and give him status in people’s hearts because of his humility, and give him a high status in people’s eyes. The 2nd is that what is meant is his reward in the Hereafter, where his status will be raised because of his humility in this world.
The scholars said: It may be that both are meant (and that his status will be raised) both in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allah knows best.
7 Ways To Bring Humility:
1) A person humbling himself to the commands and prohibitions of Allah, doing what He commands and avoiding what He forbids: Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Because a person may hesitate to obey His commands out of laziness, thus behaving in a reluctant way in an attempt to flee from servitude towards Allaah, and his soul may have the desire to commit haraam actions, but when the person humbles himself to the commands and prohibitions of Allaah, he will humble himself to true submission (‘uboodiyyah).”
2) Humbling oneself before the might, majesty and power of Allah: Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Every time he feels that he is great, he remembers the might of Allah and that might belong to Him only, and he remembers His intense anger against those who compete with Him in that, then he humbles himself before Him and submits to the might of Allah. This is the ultimate humility and inevitably includes the first type of humility mentioned above, but the converse can never apply (i.e., this type of humility inevitably leads to the first type, but a person may submit to the commands and prohibitions of Allah but he does not humble himself before His might). The one who is truly humble is the one who is blessed with both. And Allah is the One Whose help we seek.”
3) Humility in one’s dress and manner of walking: It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar (RA) that Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Whilst a man was letting his garment drag out of pride, he was swallowed up by the earth and will continue sinking in it until the Day of Resurrection.” (Al-Bukhari) Abu Hurairah (RA): “Whilst a man was walking in a garment admiring himself with his hair nicely combed, Allah caused (the earth) to swallow him up and he will continue sinking in it until the Day of Resurrection.” (Al-Bukhari)
4) Humility towards one who is of a lesser status and helping him: It was narrated that al-Bara’ ibn ‘Aazib said: Rasulullah (SAW) was moving soil with us on the day of al-Ahzaab, and I saw him with dust covering the whiteness of his stomach, and Rasulullah (SAW) was saying, “(O Allah)! Without You, we would not have been guided, nor would we have given in charity, nor would we have prayed. So (O Allah!) send tranquility (Sakeenah) upon us as they (the chiefs of the enemy tribes) have rebelled against us. And if they intend affliction (i.e. want to frighten us and fight against us) then we would not (flee but would withstand them).” And he raised his voice whilst saying it.” (Al-Bukhari)
5) Humility in interactions with one’s wife and helping her: It was narrated that al-Aswad (RA) said: I asked ‘Aa’ishah (RA) what Rasulullah (SAW) used to do in his house, and Aa’ishah (RA) said: “He used to serve his family and when the time for prayer came he would go out and pray.” (Al-Bukhari) Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar said: “This shows that we are encouraged to be humble and not arrogant, and that a man should serve his family.”
6) Humility towards the young and joking with them: It was narrated that Anas (RA) said: “Rasulullah (SAW) was the best of people in character. I had a brother whose name was Abu ‘Umayr. He said, I think he was weaned, and when Rasulullah (SAW) came he would say, “O Abu Umayr, what happened to the nughayr (a small bird that he kept as a pet)?” (Al-Bukhari) Al-Nawawi said: “The nughayr is a small bird. This hadith teaches us many things, such as being kind to small children. This demonstrates the good character of the Rasulullah (SAW)) and how he was of noble character and humble.”
7) Humility towards servants and slaves: It was narrated from Abu Hurairah (RA) that Rasulullah (SAW) said: “If the servant of one of you brings his food and he does not want to make him sit and eat with him, then let him offer him a morsel or two, because he has prepared it and served it.” (Al-Bukhari)
“O’ Allah make us among those who humble themselves before Your might.Aameen”