Cool to Swear?
Listen to yourself and to your friends speaking one day – nearly every sentence will have a swear word in it, thinking it’s cool and macho to swear, copying the idols of TV and the cinema. Is it really ‘cool’ to swear?
The Hellfire is far from being cool. People will wish they were cool then rather than being cool in this world. Remember! That every time you speak , an angel writes down what you say, and that one day you will have to answer for every single word you ever uttered. So if you swear at someone then it’s written down as a sin against you. You’re only harming yourself.
Rasulullah (SAW) said “Abusing a Muslim is a sin and fighting with him is disbelief.” (Muslim)
‘But sometimes you just have to swear’!
We’ve all been there – you’re just so angry with somebody and the only way you can express yourself, is to swear at them. The solution? …
Don’t get angry in the first place!
A man came to Rasulullah (SAW) one day and said “Advise me.” Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Don’t become angry. Don’t become angry. Don’t become angry”….
“When one of you gets angry while he is standing up, he should sit down. Then anger will leave him, and if not then he should lie down.” (Ahmad). So let us follow this beautiful advice of Rasulullah (SAW) and remember that anger is from Shaytaan. If someone angers you or swears at you then don’t harm yourself by doing the same but respond in a better way as Allah says in the Quran:
وَمَنۡ أَحۡسَنُ قَوۡلاً۬ مِّمَّن دَعَآ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ وَعَمِلَ صَـٰلِحً۬ا وَقَالَ إِنَّنِى مِنَ ٱلۡمُسۡلِمِينَ
“Repel evil with what is better. Then he who was your worst enemy will become your best friend.” (Surah Fussilat 41:33)
Pick Your Teeth!
It’s one of the greatest sins and yet it’s something we do day after day. Sometimes we don’t even realize it. You’re just chatting away with your friends and you begin to talk about somebody else. Our whole lives are based around ‘Home and Away’ and ‘Neighbours’, soaps based on lying, backbiting etc.
But look at what Rasulullah (SAW) said about it: Rasulullah (SAW) was sitting with his companions one day and one of them was speaking badly about someone who wasn’t there. As the man got up to leave Rasulullah (SAW) said to him: “Pick Your Teeth!” “But I haven’t eaten anything.” The man protested. “No” Rasulullah (SAW) said “YOU HAVE EATEN THE FLESH OF YOUR DEAD BROTHER.” As Allah tells us in the Quran:
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱجۡتَنِبُواْ كَثِيرً۬ا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعۡضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثۡمٌ۬ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُواْ وَلَا يَغۡتَب بَّعۡضُكُم بَعۡضًاۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُڪُمۡ أَن يَأۡڪُلَ لَحۡمَ أَخِيهِ مَيۡتً۬ا فَكَرِهۡتُمُوهُۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬
“O ye who believe! Shun much suspicion; for lo! some suspicion is a crime. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Ye abhor that (so abhor the other)! And keep your duty (to Allah). Lo! Allah is Relenting, Merciful..”
But What If It’s True?!
Rasulullah (SAW) told us: “Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn’t like said about them….If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbitten and if it is false then you have slandered them.” (Muslim)
If you’re still not convinced of how big a sin backbiting really is, then look at the punishment Allah has in store for the backbiters. Rasulullah (SAW) described: “On the night of mirage I passed by some people who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their necks with them. I asked Gabriel ‘Who were these people?’ He said ‘These are the people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them.” (Abu Dawud).
This is how big of a sin backbiting is looked upon and yet we continue to backbite without a second thought, next time you lie, talk about somebody, remember Allah and Rasulullah (SAW) and put them in front of you before you speak.
Just having a Laugh!
May be we think it’s all right to take the mock out of someone so long as we say it to their face. ‘We’ll make fun of the way someone talks, walks, or how they look. Allah warns us against such behavior:
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَسۡخَرۡ قَوۡمٌ۬ مِّن قَوۡمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُواْ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُمۡ وَلَا نِسَآءٌ۬ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُنَّۖ وَلَا تَلۡمِزُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَلَا تَنَابَزُواْ بِٱلۡأَلۡقَـٰبِۖ بِئۡسَ ٱلِٱسۡمُ ٱلۡفُسُوقُ بَعۡدَ ٱلۡإِيمَـٰنِۚ وَمَن لَّمۡ يَتُبۡ فَأُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ
“O ye who believe! Let not a folk deride a folk who may be better than they (are), not let women (deride) women who may be better than they are; neither defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. Bad is the name of lewdness after faith. And whoso turneth not in repentance, such are evil-doers.”
Don’t forget that Allah made us the way we are, so how can you even think of making fun of his creation?“It wasn’t me. Honest.”
How often do we say such a phrase or say that “I was only joking”. We treat lies as being trivial. However we are told that “Allah’s messenger did not hate anything more than lying”(Ahmed).
Rasulullah (SAW) was once asked “Can a Muslim be a coward?” Rasulullah (SAW) replied “Yes.” And then asked “Can a Muslim be a miser?” and Rasulullah (SAW) reply was “Yes.” Rasulullah (SAW) was then asked “Can a Muslim be a liar?” The Rasulullah (SAW) replied “NO! A Muslim can never be a liar.”
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise…Lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the hellfire.