10 Ways To Defeat Anger

10 Ways To Defeat Anger

1) Seek refuge with Allah from Shaytaan:
Sulaymaan bin Sard (RA) narrated: “I was sitting with Rasulullah (SAW), when two men began slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. Rasulullah (SAW) said: “I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said: “I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytaan,” what he feels would go away.” (Fath al-Bari)
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “If a man gets angry and says: “I seek refuge with Allah” his anger will go away.” (Sahih al-Jami)
2) Remain silent:
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” (Sahih al-Jami)
3) Sit down or lie down:
Abu Dhār (RA) was taking his camels to drink at a trough that he owned, when some other people came along and said to one another: “:Who can compete with Abu Dhār (RA) in bringing animals to drink and make his hair stand on end?” A man said: “I can.” So, he brought his animals and competed with Abu Dhār (RA) and ended up breaking the trough. Abu Dhār (RA) was standing when he saw this, so, he sat down, and then he laid down. Someone asked him: “O Abu Dhār (RA), why did you sit down then lie down?” Abu Dhār (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allah said: “If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so that his anger will go away. If it does not go away, let him lie down.” (Ahmad, Sahih al-Jami)
4) Smile:
Anas bin Malik (RA) narrated: “I was walking with the Messenger of Allah, and he was wearing a Najrani cloak with a rough collar. A Bedouin came and seized him roughly by the edge of his cloak, and I saw the marks left on his neck by the collar. Then the Bedouin ordered him to give him some of the wealth of Allah that he had. Rasulullah (SAW) turned to him and smiled, then ordered that he should be given something.” (Fath al-Bari)
5) Remember the advice of Rasulullah (SAW):
Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated: “A man said to the Rasulullah (SAW) and said: “Advise me.” Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Do not become angry.” The man repeated his request several times, and each time Rasulullah (SAW) said to him: “Do not become angry.”
(Fath al-Bari)
Note: According to another narration, the man later said: “I thought about what Rasulullah (SAW) said, and I realized that anger combines all kinds of evil.” (Reported in the ‘Musnad’ of Ahmad; 5/373)
6) Remember the high status of those who control themselves:
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “The strong man is not the one who can overpower others. Rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry.”
Anas bin Malik (RA) narrated: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) passed by some people who were wrestling. Rasulullah (SAW) asked: “What is this?” They said: “So-and-so is the strongest; he can beat anybody.” Rasulullah (SAW) then said: “Shall I not tell you who is even stronger then him? The man, who, when he is mistreated by another, controls his anger, has defeated his own devil and the devil of the one who made him angry.” (Fath al-Bari)
7) Rewards for those who control their anger:
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Do not become angry, and Paradise is yours.” (Sahih al-Jami’)
8) Remember that resisting anger is one of the signs of righteousness:
الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
“Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good;-.” (Surah Al ‘Imran 3:134)
9) Submit to reminders:
Ibn ‘Abbas (RA) narrated: A man sought permission to speak to ‘Umar bin al-Khattaab (RA), then he said: “O Ibn al-Khattaab, you are not giving us much and you are not judging fairly between us.” Umar (RA) was so angry that he was about to attack the man, but al-Hurr bin Qays, who was one of those present – said: “O’Commander of the Believers! Allah said to His Messenger (SAW)

خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ

 “Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish.” (Surah al-A’raf 7:199), and this man is one of the foolish.” By Allah, ‘Umar (RA) could go no further after al-Hurr had recited this verse to him, as he a man who was careful to adhere to the Book of Allah.” (Fath al-Bari)
…as opposed to how one of the hypocrites reacted when one of the Companions said to him: “Seek refuge with Allah from the Devil,” So, he replied: “Do you think I am crazy? Go away!” (Fath al-Bari)
10) Perform ritual ablutions
Rasulullah (SAW)  informed us that anger is from Shaytaan, and he was created from fire, so we should extinguish anger with ritual ablutions. (Abu Dawud)
You fight fire with water, not fire with fire, cause that just spreads.

We have got to learn to cool off and be the better people, this is how we are going to change our hearts and change society, we have got to remember every trial is of course a test and we have got to remind ourselves of how to revive the sunnah in every way we can Inshallah.

 

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One comment on “10 Ways To Defeat Anger

  1. Vivek nagi says:

    Thanks for telling the truth. from today i will try my best to change myselF

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