As sala’amu alaikum
Basically this is one heartbreaking post for me to write, but I have to do it, due to a post comments on other blog, regarding my husband and our marriage. Please remember this post I am writing is based on truth and guarding my and my loved ones honor and honesty as Allah says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ بِالْقِسْطِ شُهَدَاءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَىٰ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَوِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ ۚ إِنْ يَكُنْ غَنِيًّا أَوْ فَقِيرًا فَاللَّهُ أَوْلَىٰ بِهِمَا ۖ فَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا الْهَوَىٰ أَنْ تَعْدِلُوا ۚ وَإِنْ تَلْوُوا أَوْ تُعْرِضُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا
“Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve.” (Surah Nisa 4:135)
Hurt what is hurt: hurt verb, hurt, hurt⋅ing, and noun, adjective
1) To cause bodily injury to; injure: He was badly hurt in the accident. 2) To cause bodily pain to or in: The wound still hurts him. 3) To damage or decrease the efficiency of (a material object) by striking, rough use, improper care, etc.: Moths can’t hurt this suit because it’s mothproof. Dirty oil can hurt a car’s engine. 4) To affect adversely; harm: to hurt one’s reputation; It wouldn’t hurt the lawn if you watered it more often. 5) To cause mental pain to; offend or grieve: She hurt his feelings by not asking him to the party.
Verb-(used without object) 6) To feel or suffer bodily or mental pain or distress: My back still hurts. 7) To cause bodily or mental pain or distress: The blow to his pride hurt most. 8) To cause injury, damage, or harm. 9) To suffer want or need.
Noun- 10) A blow that inflicts a wound; bodily injury or the cause of such injury. 11) Injury, damage, or harm. 12) The cause of mental pain or offense, as an insult. 13) Heraldry. A rounded azure.
Adjective-14) Physically injured: The hurt child was taken to the hospital. 15) Offended; unfavorably affected: hurt pride. 16) Suggesting that one has been offended or is suffering in mind: Take that hurt look off your face! 17) Damaged: hurt merchandise.
To me what hurts is that, THE DENYING OF OUR MARRIAGE!!Ali (RA) has said “wounds of knives can heal, but the wounds of the tongue can never heal”. Gosh that hurts so bad, the hurt went so much worst when I received a reply not from my husband but dictated through a student for Eid let me share with you the contents of the email:
“You had sent a message to our email and well as the society . We are assuming it was done through error. The Imaam receives many such pranks and emails from time to time. We bless you and hope the same for yourself. We have asked our Imaam to respond to this email. He has said the following: ‘I have no wife. I do not intend to have a wife. This email is foul play.’ We honestly think you have sent this email to the wrong person. Wishing you the best.
On Wed, Sep 23, 2009 at 6:41 AM, …….@ “email addy removed”wrote:
As sala’amu alaikum
My Dearest Husband
Inshallah with the Mercy of Allah you are in good health. A sweet and belated Eid Mubarak.
Please do remember me in your duas.
With love and duasYour Wife
M (May Allah have Mercy on her.Aameen)
HOW CAN AN EMAIL FROM A WIFE TO HER HUSBAND BE A PRANK ???? Now I am wondering do I have to post our Nikah certificate, was the oath a promise and pledge of Nikah in the Masjid in front of Allah with many witnesses a lie?What about the promises and oaths that where taken are they lies too? Sure like many couples we have our disagreements, but together we have to work through them, what hurts as well is that when a spouse believe another and DOUBTS HIS WIFE! The other person is not part of our life, yes he may be pious, but what kind of piety is it when he creates a doubt in the heart and mind of a husband??? Does the pious person understand that he is breaking up a stable and firm home?? Does he ever think on how is he going to answer to Allah? And to that heart of whom he has broke? My dear husband Maulana Muhammed Shoayb as much as you want to believe in your sheik and the fatwa’s that you have got BASED ON DOUBT that our home is broken, I can take an oath with full conviction that you have NEVER EVER UTTERED WORDS TO BREAK OUR HOME! like I said before and I will say I again “IF I COULD TOUCH THE ARSH OF ALLAH AND TAKE THE OATH I WOULD” SO TO ME OUR MARRIAGE IS STILL INTACT, I have done all I could to make you understand and hear my side , but then I am always wrong in your eyes. May Allah improve me in character. Aameen. The words of Allah and Rasulullah (SAW) creates in my soul, mind, tongue and heart the fear of speaking a lie, Allah says :
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَكُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِينَ
“O you who have believed! Fear Allah and be with those who are true (in word and deed).” (Surah At-Tawbah 9: 119)
Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Stick to truthfulness, as it leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise; and a person will keep on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person.”
وَأَوْفُوا بِعَهْدِ اللَّهِ إِذَا عَاهَدْتُمْ وَلَا تَنْقُضُوا الْأَيْمَانَ بَعْدَ تَوْكِيدِهَا وَقَدْ جَعَلْتُمُ اللَّهَ عَلَيْكُمْ كَفِيلًا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَفْعَلُونَ
“And fulfill Allah’s agreement when you have made an agreement and don’t violate your oaths after they have been established and you have made Allah your guardian (therein).” (Surah An-Nahl 16: 91)
Rasulullah (SAW) saying: “Falsehood leads to Al-Fujoor (i.e. wickedness, evil-doing), and Al-Fujoor leads to the Hellfire, and a man will keep on telling lies until he is written off by Allah as a liar.”
Walaikum as salaam
بنت محمد ،
“O’Allah do not call me to account for what they say, and forgive me for what they have no knowledge me, and make me better then they imagine. Aameen Aameen “>Thuma Aameen”
Rumi said “The Lord lives in every heart. So if you desire to win your Lord’s pleasure, do not break anyone’s heart”.