11 Rules In Islam On Joking

11 Rules In Islam On Joking

Islam is a perfect religion it has set guidelines for everything, in every walk of life. Following the Sunnah of Rasulullah (SAW) is the key to everything and it shows us that Rasulullah (SAW)) used to smile and joke with his companions:

A man came to Rasulullah (SAW) and said: “Give me an animal to ride on” Rasulullah (SAW) replied: “I will give you the son of a female camel”. The man said with astonishment: “What could I do with the son of a female camel?” (Thinking that he would be given a camel too small to ride). Thereupon Rasulullah (SAW) replied: “What do female camels deliver except camels?” (i.e., that every camel, even if it is fully grown, is the product of a female camel!). (Abu Dawud & Tirmidhi).

Remember that there are guidelines to follow, according to the Sunnah, when it comes to joking, laughing and having fun

1) MAKE SURE you don’t make fun of any aspect of Islam:

Jokes should not involve verses from the Qur’aan, hadith, or any of fundamentals of Islam. Unfortunately, some people tell jokes about the verses of the Qur’aan, Prophets, angels, or they make fun of the Hijaab, the beard, etc. This is the most dangerous as it can make a person a Kaafir, EVEN IF YOU ARE ONLY JOKING.

Sheikh Al-‘Uthaymeen said: “One who mocks Allah, His verses, His signs or His Messengers is a disbeliever because this action nullifies belief.”

Rasulullah (SAW) said: “A slave (of Allah) would utter a word, without paying attention to it, which would result in him going down into the Hellfire further than the distance between the east and the west.” (Muslim)

So the sister in the Niqaab is NOT A NINJAA and the brother who shortens his pants or lengthens his beard is NOT A NERD!

Allah says:

وَلَئِنْ سَأَلْتَهُمْ لَيَقُولُنَّ إِنَّمَا كُنَّا نَخُوضُ وَنَلْعَبُ ۚ قُلْ أَبِاللَّهِ وَآيَاتِهِ وَرَسُولِهِ كُنْتُمْ تَسْتَهْزِئُونَ

لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا قَدْ كَفَرْتُمْ بَعْدَ إِيمَانِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ نَعْفُ عَنْ طَائِفَةٍ مِنْكُمْ نُعَذِّبْ طَائِفَةً بِأَنَّهُمْ كَانُوا مُجْرِمِينَ

“If you ask them, they declare: ‘We were only talking idly and joking.’ Say: ‘Was it at Allah, and His verses and His Messenger that you were mocking? ’Make no excuse; you disbelieved after you had believed” (Surah al-Tawbah 9:65-66)

2) NEVER joke about something that is HARAAM:

Some people, especially the youth living in the western society tend to take the things that are Haraam too lightly and something to joke about. For example, they make jokes about a person being GAY or being ‘high’, having committed zinaa, etc.

Subhaan Allah! We forget that these are things among the worst in the sight of Allah and bring on Allah’s wrath and curse and are certainly NOT things to joke about.

3) Say ONLY that which is true:

Rasulullah (SAW) used to joke but he would only speak the truth.

Someone asked Rasulullah (SAW)): “Do you joke with us?” Rasulullah (SAW) replied: “I do, but I only say that which is true” (Al-Bukhari, Tirmidhi)

If it involves lying and making up stories, then it is not allowed.

Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Woe to the one who speaks and tells a lie in order to make the people laugh at it. Woe to him. Then again, woe to him.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

4) Don’t make jokes to make ‘FUN’ of people:

Be careful that your joking does not hurt anybody’s feelings or harms them in any way. So don’t make those snide remarks or wink behind their backs. Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَـٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

“O you who believe! Let not a group ridicule another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it to insult one’s brother after having Faith” (Surah Hujuraat 49:11)

5) Don’t laugh if someone slips or falls or is afflicted with something:

Rasulullah (SAW) said, “Do not express malicious joy towards your brother’s misfortune, for Allah may have mercy on him and you may be stricken by the thing you made fun of.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

6) Never scare anybody while joking or otherwise:

Rasulullah (SAW) said: ‘It is not permissible for a Muslim to frighten another Muslim.’” (Abu Dawud).

7) Joking should not involve backbiting:

Don’t ever joke about others when they are not there, even if you ‘think’ they wouldn’t mind, as it would involve backbiting.

“(Backbiting is) your mentioning about your brother something that he dislikes.” (Muslim)

8) Beware of excessive laughing and joking:

Don’t be like the one who jokes ALL the time. The amount of joking should be like the amount of salt in one’s food, as too much laughing and joking makes the heart hard, distracts one from the remembrance of Allah and makes you lose respect.

Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Do not laugh too much, for laughing too much deadens the heart.” (Sahih al-Jaami)

‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (RA) said: “Whoever laughs too much or jokes too much loses respect, and whoever persists in doing something will be known for it.”

9) Choose appropriate time and place for your jokes:

Some people don’t appreciate the time or place for joking and do so indiscriminately. There is a time and place for everything. For example, what might be amusing at a picnic or at the dinner table might not be so amusing in the middle of a Halaqah.  Sufyaan ibn ‘Uyaynah said, “….. It (joking) is Sunnah, but only for those who know how to do it and do it at the appropriate time.”

10) Use appropriate language:

Some people resort to immoral or obscene language when joking around, even though under ‘normal’ circumstances they would not even think of using such words.  Rasulullah (SAW) said: “The Muslim does not slander, curse, speak obscenely or speak rudely.” (Al-Tirmidhi

11) Acknowledge people’s status:

Some people may joke with everyone indiscriminately, but scholars and the elderly have special positions and rights, so you have to be aware of the character of the person with whom you are dealing. You should also not joke with people whom you do not know or who won’t understand, or it may lead to unpleasantness.

‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez said: “Fear joking, for it is folly and generates grudges.”

Thus we see that Islam is not against jokes. Good humour is part of Islam and Islam does not go against this because it is typically a part of human nature. A Muslim should develop a positive and optimistic personality, and not a gloomy and pessimistic one that is negative towards life.  However, moderation is the key, and it is what distinguishes Muslims from others. We should not  go overboard in our jokes and humour, (or in anything else, for that matter) and if we follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah (SAW) , and his guidance, we will certainly not get lost.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اصْبِرُوا وَصَابِرُوا وَرَابِطُوا وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

“O you who believe! Be patient, and excel in patience, and remain steadfast and fear Allah, that you may be successful.” (Surah Al-Imran 3:200)

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21 comments on “11 Rules In Islam On Joking

  1. Nasim says:

    Assalamualaikum,
    And JazakAllah for this great article. In my country keeping beards has become something of a fashion statement. I saw a non muslim person who had recently grown a beard on my facebook timeline and I thought that was funny and i smiled. Is considered making fun of Islam? i was not thinking of religion or Islam when i did so. I stopped smiling though when i thought i’d be making fun of Islam
    If i had commented something like ” Whoho! Somebody just grew a beard” or something of that like would that be kufr ?
    I try to grow a beard myself.

  2. Mofika says:

    Barakallah.. Very useful message! Especially loved this sentence “sister’s who were Niqab is not a ninja nd brother’s who shorten his pants and lengthen his beard is not a nerd! ” 👍👌

  3. Hamzah says:

    Hi I was wondering in regards to the first point. Nowadays people jokingly call others (muslims) ‘gay’ – not with the intention of accusing them of homosexuality, but rather as a light insult. My question is: between friends would that be regarded as making fun of islam?

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum /Hi
      Gay has a few meanings:
      1) homosexual.
      2) dated light-hearted and carefree:Nan had a gay disposition and a very pretty face
      3) dated brightly colored; showy:a gay profusion of purple and pink sweet peas
      4) informal, often offensive foolish, stupid, or unimpressive:he thinks the obsession with celebrity is totally gay

      so if you referring to number 1 on this list, then yes you are, as i am sure you know what Islam says regarding it.

      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my luv for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for mting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshiping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen

  4. Muslih Mohamed Ismail says:

    I don’t like when people make fun of me or joke at (be it small or big). I also get short tempered very easily. Wallahi.. I do not do that on purpose. Very respectfully I do remind my brethren on a continuous basis not to Joke at me or make fun of me. They think that such thing strengthens brotherhood and love for each other. I am not person who like to make such kind of fun and joke. So to speak I am quite serious personality. I always try not to make jokes and make fun of my brethren, rather i treat them in most respectful manner possible like a serious man. Hope you u have understood my concern. Sometime I refuse to participate with them in social gatherings, because I know for a fact that jokes and fun would made of each other. It is necessary. Advise. I want let them know from quran and sunnah to pardon me (not to joke or fun of me).

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum
      1st of all i am so sorry for delay in replying to your comment…
      Have you tried speaking to your fellow brethren on how you feel? your silence may be telling them you “ok” with the teasing and joking.
      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my luv for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for mting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshiping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen

      • Muslih Mohamed Ismail says:

        Its okay, I felt happy to recieve a reply and feel sorry that i am replying you very late. Like I said in my first comment I do remind my brethren on a continuous basis not to Joke at me or make fun of me. What else do you think I should do?

  5. Clark says:

    Asalam Alaikum brother,
    What is the islamic verdict of those who continue to drfame,ridicule, etc another muslim brother even though they know it is hurtful? Cause I have been made fun of by a group for years and i would love to know what advice form the quran and sahih hadith should the oppressed follow?

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum
      Allah says:
      يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَسۡخَرۡ قَوۡمٌ۬ مِّن قَوۡمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُواْ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُمۡ وَلَا نِسَآءٌ۬ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُنَّ‌ۖ وَلَا تَلۡمِزُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَلَا تَنَابَزُواْ بِٱلۡأَلۡقَـٰبِ‌ۖ بِئۡسَ ٱلِٱسۡمُ ٱلۡفُسُوقُ بَعۡدَ ٱلۡإِيمَـٰنِ‌ۚ وَمَن لَّمۡ يَتُبۡ فَأُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ
      “O you who believe! Let not some men among you deride others who may be better than they (are), nor let women (deride) women who may be better than they are; neither defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. Evil is a bad name after faith.” (Surah al-Hujurât 49: 11)
      Ibn Kathîr, in his commentary on this verse, says about Allah’s words nor defame one another: “Sneering and defamation of people is condemnable and accursed behaviour.”

      Allah says:
      وَيۡلٌ۬ لِّڪُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ۬ لُّمَزَةٍ
      “Woe to every (kind of) scandal-monger and backbiter.” (Surah Humazah 104:1)
      Sneering is carried out through one’s actions and defamation is carried out through one’s words.

      “When man wakes up in the morning each day, all parts of the body warn the tongue saying, ‘Fear Allah as regards us for we are at your mercy; if you are upright, we will be upright and if you are crooked, we become crooked.” (At-Tirmidhî)
      Rasulullah (SAW) said “Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” Rasulullah (SAW) then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.”Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” Rasulullah (SAW) said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.” (Muslim)
      Expiation of backbiting:
      Scholars differ in the Kaffarah of the backbiter, but they all agree that he/she must make Tawbah as the first step. Repentance itself has three conditions: refraining from the sin, regret for the commission of the sin, and determination not to commit it ever again. Repentance from backbiting, however, has an additional condition, a fourth one because the backbiter has actually committed two offenses:
      1. One offense is towards Allah (because he committed an act which Allah has prohibited). The expiation is to turn to Allah in repentance and to regret what has been done.
      2. The other one is against Allah’s creatures. If the backbiting has reached the person, then forgiveness must be sought from him and regret must be expressed to him for what has been said. But if the backbiting didn’t reach the person, then he should pray for the person’s forgiveness and not tell him something he didn’t know anyway, fearing that some evil may result from telling him.

      May Allah save us all from this bad character, Aameen.
      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my love for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for meeting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshipping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen
      P.S I am a SISTER ;)

  6. purpleteal says:

    As-salamualaikum! Mashallah, wonderful post. Just what I was looking for as I was just made fun of :-(. Would you mind if I copied it :-D ?. Thank you. Jazaakhallahu Khairan.

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum
      Jazakumullah for asking :) sure you may copy :)
      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my love for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for meeting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshipping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen

  7. sayam says:

    assalamalaikum,i pray to god dat,all d readers may practice to follow these paths sincerely (AMEEN)…..
    HADIS is a gift 4 us from ALLAH TALAH.

  8. sittie aisha says:

    mashaAllah…may Allah BLESS US ALL INSHAALLAH….

  9. Abdul hamid says:

    Asalam aleikum

  10. SucdiiSaffii says:

    SubhanAllah, JazakumuAllahu Qhaira sister

    i benefit from the whole website. Can i ask something

    how can i update something n here that i think you can all benefit from as a thank-you gift!!??

    thank you !!

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum
      Jazakumullah for your kind words.May Allah Thee Almighty reward you and your family.Aameen.
      And I the “admin” would not mind at all if you share anything you could either email and I will post it for you , with your name, or you could send it as a comment to a topic you wish to share something on :)
      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my love for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for meeting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshipping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen

    • mustafa jamshid says:

      mashaallah may allah reward you for this noble work .i have learnt alot .

  11. Raheel says:

    JazakAllah!
    Unfortunately, today ‘joking’ is considered to be backbiting, offensive remarks or speaking about Haram things. Moreover, through behavior of Muslims, it’s widely believed that Islam doesn’t support joking and lighter moments.

    We should project the true beauty of Islam; SubhanAllah! what a perfect deen it is. This way, we can serve the Islam, the best.

    May Allah protect all of us.

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