Everyone has been a victim at some time. Maybe you were assaulted, robbed, or in a car accident.Being victimized is painful. It may not match the pain we inflict upon ourselves when we harbor anger and resentment for the person who wronged us. Some people eventually free themselves from the pain. Others remain stuck, wallowing in sadness, anger, guilt and any number of emotions that interfere with their potential. How do you go from being stuck to being free? Forgiveness! Forgiving isn’t easy, as evidenced by the volumes of books on the topic. But, it’s necessary to maintaining good health. Long-standing resentment can cause numerous physical and emotional problems. Forgiving is good medicine for the spirit. Here are some ways one can start.
If forgiving the one who has injured you most seems too difficult, start by forgiving the smaller stuff that hurts, i.e. a rude co-worker, the woman who cut in front of you at the bank, the clerk who kept you waiting. Use these as practice exercises on your way to forgiving the major hurts. Try Instant Forgiveness; Instead of making a big production out of forgiving, picture the one who hurt you most and say to yourself, “I will forgive you, go in peace”. Say it as many times as you need and whenever a painful memory creeps up. These six words can be the mantra that brings you peace of mind.
Write It Out:
Write a letter to the person who hurt you. Tell him/her how you feel and how your life changed as a result of what she/he did. Conclude the letter by forgiving the person. Then, bury the letter or burn it if you fear it might be found. Counselors often recommend this exercise for people who have difficulty letting go of pain.
Look at Resentment As A Prison & Forgiveness As The Key:
The longer you let pain interfere with your enjoyment of life, the longer you remain a prisoner to the person who wronged you. Find forgiveness and set yourself free. If you still have difficulty practicing forgiveness, consider talking to a helping professional, or someone in your employee assistance program.
When Almighty ALLAH Breaks The Heart Of Any Of His Servants, He Desires To Lift Him To Greater Heights.
People who can hold their tongues rarely have any trouble holding their friends.
Close your eyes to the faults of others and watch the doors of friendship swing wide!
By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.
“The most beloved of deeds to Allah is the one that is continuous, even if it is little.”