Etiquette’s With Respect To One’s Neighbor’s

Living near neighbors, as we know we get the really difficult neighbor and the really good neighbor, but as Muslims all are treated fair and equal.

 “May Allah guide us all. Aameen.”

Etiquette’s With Respect To One’s Neighbor’s

As Muslim recognizes the rights that a neighbor has over his neighbors, as well the etiquette’s that neighbors must share with respect to each other. They must fulfill these aspects completely. Allah has said in the Quraan:

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنْبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَنْ كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا

Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;-” {Surah Nisa 4:36}

Rasulullah (SAW) once said: “Gabriel kept advising me concerning the neighbor to the point that I though he would inherit {from his neighbor}.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah (SAW) also said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his neighbor.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim}

 1) He should not harm his neighbor, neither by his actions or his speech. Rasulullah (SAW) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbor.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah (SAW) also said: “By Allah he is not a believer, by Allah, he is not a believer.” It was said to him, “Who is that, O Allah’s Messenger {SAW}.” He said, “The one from whose affairs his neighbor is not safe.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} When asked about a woman who fasted during the day and spent the night in prayer but she would harm her neighbors. Rasulullah (SAW) said: “She is in the Hell-Fire.” {Al-Hakim}

 2) One should demonstrate goodness towards one’s neighbors by, helping them when they seek help, assisting them if they seek assistance, visiting them when they fall ill, congratulating them if something pleasing occurs to them, giving them condolences upon afflictions, helping them if they are in need, being the first to greet them, being kind in speech to them, being gentle in one’s speech to the neighbors children, guiding them kindly to what is best for their religion and worldly life, overlook they mistakes, not attempt to look into their private matters, not to constrain them due to one’s building or renovations or along the walkway, and not to harm them by letting one’s trash onto their property or in front of their household. All of those actions form part of the goodness that one is ordered to perform in Allah’s command:

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنْبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَنْ كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا

Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;-.” {Surah Nisa 4:36}

Rasulullah (SAW) words: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should do well to his neighbor.” {Muslim}

 3) He should be generous to his neighbors by extending any type of kindness and goodness to them. Rasulullah (SAW) said: “O Muslim women, none of you should look down upon the gift she receives from a female neighbor, even if it be a meatless foot of a sheep.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah (SAW) said to Hazrat Abu Dhār {RA}: “o Abu Dhār, when you prepare a stew, increase its water and deliver it to some of your neighbors.” {Muslim}   When Ayesha {RA} told Rasulullah (SAW) that she had two neighbors and wanted to know which one of them to give a present to, he said: “The one whose door is closest to yours.” {Al-Bukhari}

 4) He should also show his neighbors respect and courtesy. He not prevent him from putting wood on his wall. He should not sell or rent what is connected or close to his land unless he offers it to him first. Rasulullah (SAW) has alluded to this when he said: “None of you should prevent his neighbor from putting wood on his wall.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah (SAW) also said: “Whoever has a neighbor sharing his garden or a partner should not sell it unless he offers to him first.” {Al-Bukhari}

Two Important Notes

 1) A Muslim knows whether he has treated his neighbors well or if he has wronged them. When Rasulullah (SAW) was asked about that, he said: “If you hear them saying, You have done well,, Then you have done well.. If you hear them saying, you have done evil, then you have done evil.” {Ahmed}

 2) If a Muslim is harmed by his neighbor, he should be patient as this will cause the problem to end. A man came to Rasulullah (SAW) to complain about his neighbor and Rasulullah (SAW) told him: “To be patient. The third or the fourth time he complained, Rasulullah (SAW) told him to put his belongings in the path. He did so and when the people tried to pass by it, they would ask, why he did that and he would say that his neighbor harmed him. They would then curse that neighbor until the neighbor said to him, Take back your belongings to your place as, by Allah, I will not repeat what I have done.” {Abu-Dawud}

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