THE RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND UPON THE WIFE

All the praises and thanks are due to Allah, the Rabb of the worlds, and may Allah exalt the mention of Rasulullah {SAW}. I thought that I would write down thee etiquettes of a Muslim’s way of conducting our life…I came across articles that I would love to share with everyone. I hope that it will help me and you live life a simpler, Islamic life, filled with Barakah. Aameen

THE RIGHTS OF THE  HUSBAND UPON THE WIFE

It is obligatory upon the wife to fulfill the following rights and etiquette towards her husband:

 1} She must obey him in matters that are not disobedience to Allah. Allah says:

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا ۖ وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ ۚ وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّهَ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا

“But if they return to obedience, seek not against them means {of annoyance}” {Surah Nisa 4:32}

 Rasulullah {SAW} said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come, such that he spends that night angered with her, the angels curse her till morning.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah {SAW} also said: “If I were to order anyone to prostrate oneself to anyone else I would order the wife to prostate herself to her husband.” {Abu-Dawud}

2} She must also protect the honor and dignity of her husband. She must also protect his wealth, children and other aspects of his household. This is based on Allah’s statement:

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا ۖ وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ ۚ وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّهَ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا

“Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient { to Allah and their husband }, and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard” {Surah Nisa 4:32 }

Rasulullah {SAW} said: “The wife is the guardian over the house of her husband and his children.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim} Rasulullah {SAW} also said: “Their rights over you {wives} is that you do not allow anyone whom they dislike onto your bedding and you do not allow anyone whom they dislike into your house.” {Al-Tirmidhi}

 3} The wife must to leave the house except with her husband’s permission and approval. She must also lower her gaze, keep her voice low, keep her hands from reaching out to anything evil and keep her tongue from lewd or foul speech. She must also not harm his parents or near relatives. This is because Allah has said:

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَىٰ ۖ وَأَقِمْنَ الصَّلَاةَ وَآتِينَ الزَّكَاةَ وَأَطِعْنَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚ إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُذْهِبَ عَنْكُمُ الرِّجْسَ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمْ تَطْهِيرًا

“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that in the times of ignorance.” {Surah Ahzaab 33:33}

 Allah has also said:

يَا نِسَاءَ النَّبِيِّ لَسْتُنَّ كَأَحَدٍ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ ۚ إِنِ اتَّقَيْتُنَّ فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا

“Be not soft in speech, lest those in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire.” {Surah Ahzaab 33:32}

 Another verse states:

لَا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَنْ ظُلِمَ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا

“Allah does not like that evil should be uttered in public.” {Surah Nisa 4:148}

 Another verse states:

وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ ۚ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze {from looking at forbidden things}, and protect their private parts {from illegal sexual acts} and not to show of their adornment except only that which is apparent.” {Surah Noor 24:31}

 Rasulullah {SAW} said: “The best woman is the one who when you look at her, you are pleased, when you order her, she obeys, if you are absent, she guards herself and your property.” {At-Tabarâni}  Rasulullah {SAW} also said: “Do not prevent the female’s servants of Allah from attending Allah’s mosques. If the wife of any of you should seek permission to go to the mosque, do not prevent her.” {Muslim} Rasulullah {SAW} also said: “Permit you wives to go at night to the mosque.” {Al-Bukhari and Muslim}

If I am right, it is from Allah; if wrong, it is from me.   I ask Allah Almighty to protect us from errors and from  all that displeases him. I conclude my praising  by “Al-Hamdu-lillaahi rabbil-alaameen”  – Praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds.

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2 comments on “THE RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND UPON THE WIFE

  1. Bie says:

    mShallah. You’re Uber rlgious and compassionate, I hope that I can be like you.

    • muslimah says:

      As sala’amu alaikum
      Jzakumullah for you kind words, like you I am striving to do good and be more aware of my islamic duties.
      Walaikum as salaam
      “O Allah, make my love for You the most beloved thing to me, and Your displeasure with me the most fearful thing to me, and instill in me a passion for meeting You; when you have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshipping You. Aameen Thuma Aameen”

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