To Be Caring And Loving In A Marriage.

To Be Caring And Loving In A Marriage.

To make a beautiful marriage we should learn from the marriage Rasulullah (SAW).

• Know their feelings: Rasulullah (SAW) told his wife Ayesha (RA) that he knew she was pleased with him when she said: By the God of Muhammad (SAW), and when she was angry she used to say: By the God of Ebrahim. Spouses need to be aware of each other’s feelings. This will help to resolve differences.
• Consoling: On a journey, the wife of Rasulullah (SAW), Saffiya (RA), was late. Rasulullah (SAW) received her while she was crying and wiped her tears with his hands and tried his utmost to calm her.
• Laying in her Lap: Rasulullah (SAW) would recline in the lap of Ayesha (RA) even if was menstruating.
• Combing Hair: Ayesha (RA) would comb Rasulullah (SAW) hair and wash it. Love in marriage sees each spouse doing things for the other. This has a huge psychological impact.
• Kiss: Rasulullah (SAW) would kiss his wife regularly, even when entering home or leaving for Salaah. For a marriage to survive, love has to be expressed.
• Compliments: Once the Rasulullah (SAW) was gazing at the world within his wife’s eyes. He then said to her: “How white are your eyes.”

May Almighty Allah grant us the ability to practice upon the Noble teachings of our Beloved Rasulullah (SAW) Aameen  ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Remember In Life.

Remember In Life.

• Never give up on anybody miracles happen every day.

• Be brave even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

• Think big thoughts, relish small pleasures.

• Learn to listen. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly.

• Never deprive someone of hope, it might be all they have.

• Strive for excellence, not perfection.

• Don’t waste time grieving over past mistakes. Learn from them and move on.

• When someone hugs you let them be the first to let go.

• Never cut what can be untied.

• Don’t expect life to be fair.

• Remember Success comes to the one that acts first.

• Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

• Remember that nobody makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who help you.

• Never underestimate the power of a kind word or deed.

• Laugh alot a good sense of humour cures almost all of life’s ills.

• Don’t miss the magic of the moment by focusing on what’s to come.

• Watch for big problems. They disguise big opportunities’.

10 Important Things..

10 Important Things..

LOVE- The special feeling that makes you feels all warm and wonderful.

RESPECT -Treating others as well as you would like to be treated.

APPRECIATION- To be grateful for all the good things life has to offer.

HAPPINESS- The full enjoyment of each passing moment with a smiling face.

FORGIVENESS- The ability to let things be without any anger.

SHARING-The joy of giving without thought of receiving.

HONESTY- The quality of always telling the truth.

INTEGRITY- The purity of doing what’s right, no matter what.

COMPASSION- The essence of feeling another’s pain, while easing their hurt.

PEACE- The reward for living The 10 Most Important Things.

Building Our Self-Esteem.

Building Our Self-Esteem.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love & affection.”

Self-esteem is built upon the experience of success. Think of it as a circular process. When people experience success, they grow in self-confidence. As self-confidence grows, they feel empowered to face new challenges. As they succeed in confronting each challenge, they develop the capacity to cope with whatever life throws their way. That feeling leads to further growth of self-confidence, self-reliance and self-esteem

To Maintain Healthy Self-Esteem:

• ·         Celebrate our strengths and achievements.
• ·         Forgive ourselves for our mistakes.
• ·         Don’t dwell on our weaknesses, every human has them.
• ·         Change the way you talk to ourselves– stop putting ourselves down!
• ·         Be sure that we are not judging ourselves against unreasonable standards.
• ·         Beating ourselves for our weaknesses is self-defeating. Use that energy for positive thoughts about ourselves.

People With High Self-Esteem Are:

• ·         Able to accept and learn from their own mistakes.
• ·         Confident without being obnoxious or conceited.
• ·         Not devastated by criticism.
• ·         Not overly defensive when questioned.
• ·         Not easily defeated by setbacks and obstacles.
• ·         Unlikely to feel a need to put others down.
• ·         Open and assertive in communicating their needs.
• ·         Not overly worried about failing or looking foolish.
• ·         Not harshly or destructively critical of themselves.
• ·         Not aggressively driven to prove themselves.
• ·         Able to laugh at themselves, not taking themselves too seriously.

Why Do You Think We Have So Little Strengths Worth Celebrating?

• ·         Because everyone has always pointed out our shortcomings?
• ·         Because we rarely get any positive feedback for a job well done?
• ·         Because the things we do well are so familiar to ourselves that we take them for granted?
• ·         Because we have learned to focus only on our mistakes?

When We Make A Mistake, Do We Say?

• ·         What an idiot! How can I be so stupid!
• ·         Can’t I get anything right! What a loser!
• ·         There I go again! I am really not up to it, am I?

Who else has talked to us this way in the past? Are we still listening to them? We can’t change our past, but we can change the way we talk to ourselves today.

We should start by making a LONG list of all the good things we have ever done. If we catch ourselves saying nasty things to ourselves, then we STOP.

Recite our list of achievements to ourselves. Convince ourselves to be proud of what we have done and of what we are working on doing, on anything we have done for another person, or on how well we manage our time, our money, our friends, our schedule, etc.

Affirmations for Self-Esteem:

• ·         There are many things I do successfully. (Write them down if we have to.)
• ·         I can improve my self-esteem by meeting my own expectations.
• ·         I don’t have to strive for perfection to approve of myself.
• ·         My worth as a human being does not depend on achieving a perfect weight, or by being the smartest, or the most popular, or the fastest, etc…
• ·         I alone am responsible for the decisions I make.
• ·         I am a unique individual.
• ·         Persistence will help me succeed.
• ·         Every mistake I make can be an opportunity to learn. I can’t be afraid to make mistakes; this is how I learn to improve.
• ·         I deserve support and will ask for help when I need it.
• ·         I have the power to forgive myself for past mistakes.
• ·         I will treat myself as someone special.
• ·         I determine what success means to me.

What is Success?

• ·         To laugh often and much.
• ·         To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children.
• ·         To earn the appreciation of honest critics.
• ·         And endure the betrayal of false friends or family etc..
• ·         To appreciate beauty.
• ·         To find the best in others.
• ·         To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition.
• ·         To know that one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

 This is to have succeeded.

“Success comes not from the avoidance of failure. Most of the time, success is achieved only when there has been enough failure.”

For The Sake Of Allah

For The Sake Of Allah

“Each day I’ll do a golden deed,

By helping those who are in need,

My life on earth is but a span,

And so I’ll do the best I can,

The best I can.

To be a servant of Allah each day,

My light must shine along the way;

I’ll say “Alhamdulillah” while ages roll

And strive to help some troubled soul.

The only life that will endure,

Is one that’s kind and good and pure,

And so for Allah’s sake I’ll take my stand,

Each day I’ll lend a helping hand.

I’ll help someone in time of need,

And journey on with rapid speed;

I’ll help the sick and poor and weak,

And words of kindness to them speak,

Kind words I’ll speak.

 

While going down life’s weary road,

I’ll try to lift some traveller’s load;

I’ll try to turn the night to day,

Make flowers bloom along the way,

Life’s evening sun is sinking low,

A few more days and I must go

To meet the deeds that I have done,

Where there will be no setting sun.

Everything that I do is for the sake of Allah.”