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FromMuslimah

Aslm/Hi to all my amazing wonderful readers

i hope that you all well,,, as for me at the moment I am in Saudi Arabia for Umrah then of to the UAE next month .

i hope that I would be abler to blog… But praying is a lot more important..but thinking of  all my readers.

Keep your comments coming in.  Inshallah I will make sometime to post them.

take care ,keep positive, keep smiling and I touch touch.

wslm

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Run for Your Life

Run for Your Life

Don’t walk away from these situations, RUN!  Life is too precious not to.

Start running from…

  • People who keep hurting you. – Stop wondering why people keep hurting you.  Ask yourself, “Why am I continuously allowing this to happen?”  Speak up.  Stand up for yourself.  Sometimes we suffer, not because of the violence others inflict on us, but because of our own silence. 
  • Love that lies. – If another person steals the heart of the person you love, be thankful that you learned the truth sooner rather than later.  Because their love was never true – true love can’t be stolen.  We have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts for a long time, even if they don’t stay in our lives.
  • Procrastination. – Sometimes we ask questions not to seek answers but to affirm something our soul knows already.  You’re not doing yourself a favor by merely hearing the same answer from people over and over again.  It is accepting the truth, making a conscious change and finally moving on to other things that is your answer.  Give your soul a chance to explore the life you are meant to live.  Stop asking the same questions – at some point you have to make a decision and take action.
  • Impatience. – The principle part of faith is patience.  When we walk by faith there will be times when we hear and see nothing, and are tempted to aggravate a situation in the best effort to make things happen faster.  We are tempted to sway from being faithful and patient, and attempt to create more options for ourselves, without pausing long enough to notice what is.  A faithful mind requires a patient will.  Things will not always seem to move fast enough in your life, but they are usually moving as fast as they should be. 
  • Superficial stereotyping. – If you judge others by their skin colour, their body size, and their outer beauty, you will miss EVERYTHING about who they really are.
  • Materialism. – No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across small minds – people who think they’re better than you – people who think that material possessions, dressing a certain way, driving a fancy car, etc. makes you a worthwhile human being.  But material things don’t matter.  What matters is having strength of character, integrity, and a sense of self-worth.  And if you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them.  Never sell yourself short.
  • Rushed relationships. – Don’t rush into any kind of relationship.  Work on yourself.  Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself.  Do this first and soon you will get the attention of the right people, and gradually attract them into your life.
  • The reckless expectation of perfection. – Don’t berate others for not being perfect.  Admire them for not being fake.  Even though you probably sometimes get confused, you don’t really want your friends and lovers to be perfect. What you do want people you can trust, who treat you right – people you can act silly with, who love being around you as much as you love being around them.
  • People who only tell you what you want to hear. – It’s so easy to believe someone when they’re telling you exactly what you want to hear.  But you have to watch what they do too.  Actions speak louder than words – actions speak the whole truth.
  • People who continuously overlook your worth. – You are not a back-up plan.  You are worth more than someone’s second choice.  You can’t force yourself to stop loving someone, but you can tell yourself that you deserve better.  Never settle for second best.  Always look out for number one.  Because you can’t expect to be someone else’s priority if you aren’t your own.
  • Situations that force you to be someone you’re not. – In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself.  And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you.  Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.”  But that’s okay.  The things that make you different are the things that make YOU.
  • A long-term situation or routine that you hate. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your intuition.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen
  • The easy-street mentality. – Most great things must be earned.  There is no elevator to success; you must take the stairs.  So forget how you feel and remember what you deserve.  Right NOW is always the best time to break out of your shell and show the world who you really are and what you’re really made of.  Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.  It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.
  • Self-doubt. – When you become your own best friend, life gets easier.  There is nothing to hold you back except you.  You are limited only by your imagination.  Rest in the knowledge that you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone’s heart but your own.
  • Negativity. – Sometimes life sucks.  Sometimes life gets so hard that you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning.  Sometimes life is so stressful that all you want to do is cry.  But sometimes life is beautiful.  Sometimes life is so awesome that all you want to do is smile.  Sometimes you just have to stay positive, and push through the hard times.  Why?  Because life is worth it.  The good times are worth it.  You are worth it.

Never Stop

Never Stop

Take control of your destiny.  Believe in yourself.  Ignore those who try to discourage you.  Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits.  Don’t give up and don’t give in.  Your life isn’t behind you; your memories are behind you.  Your life is always right here, right now.  Seize it!  Choose to let each of your experiences today be a gateway to an even brighter tomorrow.

Start doing these things now and never stop…

  • Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best.  Be a defender of honesty and truth so that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.  Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the achievements and lessons of today.  Give so much time to your own self improvement that you have no time to criticize others.  Look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism part of your religion.  Live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is you.
  • Walk comfortably in your own shoes.  If you don’t follow the path others want you to follow they might become irritated.  Don’t worry about it.  Let them be.  It’s their problem, not yours.  So many people seem to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but have no clue how to lead their own.  So focus on your inner callings and keep paving your own path.  Remember that it is more useful to be aware of a single strength or weakness in yourself than to be aware of a thousand strengths and weaknesses in others.
  • Embrace your difficulties.  After each difficulty you faced in the past was overcome, you became stronger and more able to meet the ones you face today.  Likewise, the difficulties you face today are preparing you for the challenges of tomorrow.  As this process of growth takes place remember that there are no mistakes.  The events you bring upon yourself as you journey forward, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary steps in order to learn what you need to know to reach the places you’ve chosen to go.
  • Focus on the controllable.  If you’re feeling miserable and highly stressed, there’s a good chance you have developed an unhealthy attachment to things you have no control over.  The first step is to let go of these things – release the stress.  You were never really in control of them anyway.  Positive change will happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over the uncontrollable.
  • Maintain full accountability for every aspect of your life.  When you think problems you have are someone else’s fault, you will solve none of them in your lifetime.  Do not allow yourself to be limited by your beliefs.  In the end you will achieve what your mind believes.  Start realizing that this is not a dress rehearsal.  If you’re not learning and improving yourself by taking responsibility for everything you have in your life, then your dreams and desires will stay fantasies.
  • Give it all you’ve got.  You get what you put in.  The amount of effort you give determines the amount of joy you receive.  If your life doesn’t please you, do something about it.  Take action, change things.  Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask.  Everything you want also wants you.  But you have to take action to get it.  If you can, fly.  But if you can’t fly, run.  If you can’t run, walk.  If you can’t walk, crawl.  No matter how you do it, move forward.
  • Prune nonessential commitments.  The mark of a successful person is the ability to set aside the ‘somewhat important’ things in order to accomplish the vital ones first.  When you’re crystal clear about your priorities, you can painlessly arrange them in the right order and discard the activities and commitments that do not support the ones at the top of your list.
  • Keep taking deep breaths.  Don’t allow yourself to be crippled by stress and anger.  Everything is only as it is.  There’s no reason to let it destroy you.  Breathe in, breathe out.  Relax.  Let every moment be what it’s going to be.  What’s meant to be will come your way, what’s not will fall away.  And remember that a wonderful gift may not always be wrapped as you expect.
  • Hold on to your humility.  All self-misery has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in taking life too seriously.  If you take everything too seriously, especially yourself, you’ll wind up fearing every new step you take.  Loosen up and laugh it off if you can – especially when things don’t go as planned.  People with a good sense of humour have a better sense of life.  You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself and your circumstances.
  • Cherish those who have proven their love.  It’s a lot easier for someone to be nice to you on a beautiful day when the sun is shining, but in a heavy storm is where you learn who truly cares.  That’s why you need to pay attention to who was there for you when no one else was.  Because the people who stood beside you through your darkest nights, are the ones worth spending your brightest days with.
  • Exercise your talents to give back.  Do so whenever you can, because you can.  And when you get tired, remember all those people who can’t do what you can do.  Think about what they would be willing to give to have the abilities you have right now – a simple gift you take for granted.  Then strive harder just for them.  And know that there are others out there with different gifts who are doing the same for you.
  • Evolve.  Just because you liked something at one point in time doesn’t mean you are required to always like it.  You can change your mind.  You don’t have to pretend to like something as an act of loyalty to who you are as a person, based solely on who you once were as a person.  To be sincerely loyal to yourself is to allow yourself the freedom to grow, change and challenge who you ARE and what you THINK at any given moment in time.  The only thing you ever are for sure is unsure, and this means you’re growing and not stagnant or imprisoned by old ways of thinking.

Before You Give Up:

Before You Give Up:

Before you give up think about these few points:

  • You never fail until you’re satisfied with failure: Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  Which means you haven’t really failed yet; you’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work.  So don’t get so hung up on a few failed attempts that you miss every new opportunity coming your way.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.  As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
  • What you have learned is what’s important: Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chance doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, and laugh at your mistakes but learn from them.  Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.
  • Tough times are just part of life’s natural balance: Life lives, life dies.  Life laughs, life cries.  Life gives up and life tries.  And life looks different through everyone’s eyes.  In fact, who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people.  And as you gradually grow beyond the person you were yesterday, keep life’s challenges in perspective.  Hear life’s harmony, and notice the delicate balance.
  • Pain helps you grow: Sometimes things must change so you can change.  Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.
  • Success is a way of living:  Don’t let your struggles become your identity.  Not everything in your life will go as you expect it to.  This is why you need to drop expectations, live in the present, and go with the flow, rather than against it.  Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay not to be perfect.  Ultimately, success is not something you achieve, it is what you learn and how you grow as you deal with the realities of life – it is a way of living and being.
  • You can choose differently: The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.  And in many cases, the only thing in life you have control over is your perspective.  No matter what happens, YOU control what the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstance.  Choose to react in a way that motivates happiness, love, or forgiveness, even when circumstances make that choice difficult.
  • It’s not supposed to be easy:  Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday.  Again, success is tied to long-term determination.  Successful people keep moving and trying.  They make mistakes, but they do not quit.  If things in your life aren’t happening as planned right now, that’s okay.  It just means it’s not the right time.  Life’s brick walls are not there to keep you out, they’re there to give you a chance to show how badly you want something.  They’re there to stop the people who don’t want it as bad as you do.
  • Simplify, simplify, simplify: Like all magnificent things, life is quite simple.  Its simplicity is found not in seeing how little you can get by with – that’s poverty – but how efficiently you can conquer your biggest difficulties.  Remember, the greatest wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.  Your most significant ideas and accomplishments will be genius in their simplicity.  One day you will find the right words, the right decisions, and the right solutions that will lead you to victory, and they will be far simpler than they seem right now
  • Life is still good. You may have seen better days, but you have also seen worse.  You might not have all your wants, but you do have all your needs.  You woke up with a few aches and pains, but you woke up.  Your life may not be perfect, but it is good.  And more good things are coming down the road as long as you keep moving forward.

A Story With A Moral- Manage Your Temper.

A Story With A Moral- Manage Your Temper.

Every time you lose your cool, you lose control and at times the cost could be quite high. So learn to manage your temper.

As a little kid growing up on a sheep farm, Martin was a bright, hardworking boy, prone to losing his temper and getting angry. He would end up saying harsh words to his friends and family without often realising the impact of his angry outbursts.

Intent on mending his son’s ways, Martin’s dad decided on a plan. He gave his son a sack of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the wooden fence at the back of their farm. The son agreed. The first day, he hammered 35 nails into the fence. As the days passed, the number of nails hammered into the fence gradually decreased. It was quite a task going all the way to the back of the farm and hammering a nail. Young Martin figured it was easier to just control his temper and not get angry.

And then, one day, he did not lose his cool at all. A day of no nails! Delighted, he told his father about it. And the father said that for every day that Martin did not lose his temper, he should pull out a nail from the fence. Martin did as told, and some months later, all the nails in the fence had been removed. Martin was pleased. And so was his dad.

The father led young Martin to the back of the farm and pointing to the wooden fence he said “You have done well, my son and I am proud of you. But notice the holes left behind by the nails? They will never go away. The fence will never be the same again. It’s like that with our anger too. When we are angry, we say things that leave a scar. And no amount of apologizing thereafter can ever remove those scars. Remember that!”

Moral: It’s a lesson that we should remember all our life. And it’s a lesson we would all do well to take to heart too. Keep your cool. Don’t lose your temper. And you will see a significant improvement in your relationships. People will like you more, they will respect you a lot more – and you will find that hardly anybody gets angry with you. If you find yourself losing your cool often, maybe you should set yourself a punishment equivalent to hammering nails on the fence. Like Martin, you too might then find yourself controlling your temper a lot better. Good to remember that you can never really win when you get angry. You always lose -your temper, your cool and a whole lot else besides.

Saying “Sorry” is like using one of those erasers on the top of a pencil. It’s easy to use, it feels like you have erased what was written, but the marks remain on the sheet of paper forever. And in this era of instant messaging and on-the-go e-mails, it becomes even more important to watch your words. If you are upset and want to shoot off an angry e-mail or message, hold it! Draft a mail perhaps – but leave it as a draft. Don’t hit the ‘send’ button whilst you are angry. Tell yourself that you will take a look at it the next morning, and only then send it. Chances are, with a cooler head the next morning, you will realise the folly of sending out the angry email. And it does not matter that you are in the right, or that you think your anger is justified. If you lose your cool, remember, you lose. Period.

Next time you are angry and want to say something, take a deep breath. Pause. And maybe say nothing at all.

“SHORT OR LONG, TEMPER IS BAD”

Pomegranate-Health Benefits

Pomegranate-Health Benefits

Time to add another carton of fruit juice to your shopping basket:  it seems pomegranate is the new wonder drink for all-round good health benefits.

Not convinced?

Here are eight reasons why pomegranate deserves a place in your diet:

1. It contains three times more antioxidants, glass for glass, than green tea.

2. Drinking it will boost your intake of vitamins C, E, and K, as well as potassium and calcium.

3. It contains folic acid, necessary to make red blood cells, and iron.

4. Drink pomegranate juice after a workout as it will speed up your recovery and reduce muscle aches. Research also indicates that it may prevent cartilage deterioration.

5. Pomegranates are thought to help protect you against cancer.

6. New research shows that it may also help to prevent cardiovascular disease, heart attacks and strokes, as it is understood to halt clogging in your arteries.

7. Studies have also shown that pomegranates can help to lower bad cholesterol and build good cholesterol.

8. As well as being a source of calcium, pomegranates may also help to prevent dental plaque forming on your teeth.

Looking for a pure pomegranate juice to help boost your health? Check the ingredients, and avoid pomegranate drinks with added sugars,  juices, water and additives.                      

Positive Thoughts

Positive Thoughts

Positive thoughts are those thoughts which give us and others the experience of our original virtues like peace, love, bliss, happiness, etc. They enable you to accumulate inner strength and equip you to be constructive. Positive thoughts are always beneficial in all circumstances, without trapping you in the external appearance of a situation.

Thinking positively does not mean ignoring the reality of your world and living in a fantasy or longing to be another person. For example, if you were to repeat over and over again, “I am well, am well,” when you were ill, this is not what we mean by positive thinking.

Thinking positively involves looking at problems and recognizing reality, but at the same time being able to find solutions without becoming obsessed or confused. This often requires tolerance, patience and common sense. A person who thinks positively is aware of the weaknesses of others, but even then will direct their attention towards their positive characteristics. Positive thoughts make you happy and as a result your expectations of others decrease. This does not mean that they do not matter to you, but that you no longer demand love, respect, recognition, or even calm, from them, and it makes your relationships that much easier. This is the best way to create long-lasting and harmonious relationships. When you have inner happiness, you have the strength to accept other people as they are without wanting them to be different. This acceptance produces more peaceful relationships. With the positive attitude you create, you can offer yourself to other people just the way you are, with your virtues and limitations, without pretence.

Your body also benefits greatly, since when you have a balanced, harmonious mind you are less susceptible to illnesses. A person who has many useless thoughts will often feel very tired because they are spending their energy in creating thousands of unnecessary and inefficient thoughts.

Your mind is strengthened and healed by being nourished with positive thoughts. A healthy mind is the basis of a balanced personality.