Wisdom For Everyday

Wisdom For Everyday

• If you are right, then there is no need to get angry.  And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry.
• Patience with family is love, Patience with others is respect.  Patience with self is confidence.
• Never think hard about past, it brings tears.  Don’t think more about future, it brings fears. Live this moment with a smile, it brings cheers.
• Every test in our life makes us bitter or better.  Every problem comes to make us or break us. Choice is ours, whether we become victim or victorious.
• Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face.  Beautiful things are not always good, but good things are always beautiful.

A Story With A Moral: Going Through Life.

A Story With A Moral: Going Through Life.

A very tired traveller came to the banks of a river. There was no bridge by which he could cross. It was winter, and the surface of the river was covered with ice. It was getting dark, and he wanted to reach the other side while there was enough light to see.  He debated about whether or not the ice would bear his weight.Finally, after much hesitation and fear, he got down on his knees and began very cautiously to creep across the surface of the ice. He hoped that by disturbing the weight of his body, the ice would be less apt to break under the load. After he made his slow and painful journey about halfway across the river, he suddenly heard the sound of singing behind him. Out of the dusk, there came a 4-horse load of coal driven by a man singing merrily as he went to his carefree way.

Here was the traveller, fearfully inching his way on his hands and knees. And there, as if whisked along by the winter’s wind, went the driver, his horses, his sled, and the heavy load of coal over the same river!

Moral: The story illustrates how many of us go through life. Some stand on the bank of decisions unable to make up their minds about the course to take.  Others stand on the banks trying to muster enough courage to cross over to the other side of the task or problem encountered.On the other hand, some individuals crawl and creep through life for fear of thin ice.Their faith is not strong enough to hold them up. Still there are those who whisked along whistling as they go. Their faith is UNSHAKABLE.

The Qualities Of A True Muslim.

The Qualities Of  A True Muslim.

In a hadith, it was once asked from Rasulullah (SAW): “How will I know that I have become a Mumin?” Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “When your heart feels satisfied because of any of your good act and mourns about any of your wrong doing, then know, you have become a true Muslim, i.e., Mumin.”

To us both of the terms look alike, but keep in mind they aren’t, for you shall also see the difference from the Quran. A Muslim is a person who embraces Islam by saying the Kalima Tayyiba and with a keen belief that Allah is one; no God except Him and Muhammad (S.A.W) is His last Apostle. Whereas a person becomes Mumin when this knowledge penetrates deep into his mind, heart and soul. Allah Almighty has described 13 main qualities of such dignified persons in Surah Al- Furqan they are as under:

• Believer of Allah: Such persons believe in Allah Almighty and declare no assistant with Him whatsoever. We have seen many people saying and believing in Allah fully yet whenever they are in trouble they seek help from others. This is in fact Shirk that has been entailed in the last sermon of Rasulullah (SAW). A Mumin turns only to Allah for help and demands only from Him. I shall quote here words of Hadith Qudsi, “There is no such thing that any person can give you unless Allah imputes and no such thing any person can take away from you unless Allah wills. No greatness of any person, whatsoever, is greater than that of Allah and none can save you from evil doings except His might”.
• Humble: Another quality of such persons is that they are humble, i.e., free from any sort of pride and arrogance. They walk very humbly, talk humbly hence humbleness is a part of their life. Pride is something that Allah has forbidden upon humanity, it’s in a Hadith Qudsi, “Pride is my cloak, and whosoever tries to steal it from me, I shall be at war with him”.
• Saying Salaam: Here salaam not only represents saying salaam to each other in normal course of life but whenever such persons face a situation where an ignorant is trying to have a dispute with them over any matter, they just say salaam and move forward. Therefore, it clearly shows that such persons don’t indulge themselves in futile discussions.
• Praying after mid night: though this is not compulsory for every person but whosoever does it with beat intentions may have reward for it, Insha’Allah. The Mu’mineen has the quality that they perform prayers after midnight, i.e., Tahajjad. Allah says in Surah al Furqan: “The pious followers of Allah are those who get up in the middle of the night and pray, when all the world is sound asleep.”
• Chary towards expenses: Such persons are not extravagant rather chary. For an extravagant person, it is said, “An extravagant is brother of Shaytaan”. Some people believe that Allah gives money to spend hence they keep on spending it uselessly. Yes that is true that Allah gives money to a person to spend on himself and his family but not extravagantly, rather a person should be cautious in doing so, he should take care of the money given to him, he should neither be a closefisted person nor an extravagant but a careful person.
• Avoid shirk: Followers of Allah Almighty abstain from Shirk. That is the subject matter of Islam and if one can’t follow that, he shall not be called a Muslim. Now normally there are two major kinds of Shirk, Shirk-e- jali and Shirk-e-khafi. Shirk-e-jali means directly associate a partner with Allah and Shirk-e-khafi means to involve oneself in such acts so as to please other persons. Note that a wife can do anything to please her husband but for other persons doing something to get their attention also comes in the category of Shirk-e-khafi.
• Don’t kill anyone unjustly: Muslims are worldwide seen as terrorist and Islam a terrorist religion, well here is an answer for that. Allah Almighty says in Al-Quran that the followers of Allah don’t kill anyone unjustly because they know that whosoever does that (i.e., kills another person unjustly or a Mumin unjustly), he abodes in hell where he shall dwell forever.
• Avoid adultery: Allah explains another unique quality of His followers that they avoid adultery and save themselves from it because they know that it is such a ribald sin that has no chances of apologies only and only punishment. For an apology it is necessary that the loss be fulfilled and in adultery loss can never be fulfilled.
• Avoid lying and Fraud: Followers of Allah avoid lying and fraud and don’t go near the evil or places where evil dwells. Once a person came to Rasulullah (SAW) and asked Him some questions:  Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to drink?”

Rasulullah (SAW): “Yes, it is possible.”

Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to steal?”

Rasulullah (SAW): “Yes, it is.”

Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to lie?”

Rasulullah (SAW): “Never, a Muslim may be weak of Imaan and may indulge himself in other such acts but he can never lie to anyone.”

• Noble and generous: Followers of Allah are very noble and generous that if they ever pass by evil gatherings, they just seek their Lord’s refuge and move on. But they never feel hatred for the ones who are in such gatherings nor do they degrade such persons in fact they pray for them to be shown guidance by Allah.
• Use their senses: Followers of Allah have the quality that whenever they are told orders of Allah, they listen to it keenly and then follow it. They don’t indulge themselves in vague questioning neither do they ask for proof that world is going such like why should we be different. Because they know that Muslims are given just a small portion of knowledge and that can be compared to give answers for everything.
• Worry about family: The followers of Allah always worry about their families. They not only themselves follow the straight path but also make their children follow the straight path and often pray for them to be pious as well.
• Fear Allah and worry about Hereafter: The followers of Allah fear from Allah every time and keep worrying about hereafter. They keep themselves indulge in such acts that are helpful for their hereafter. They often pray from their Lord, “Oh Allah, bless us in this worldly life as well as save us from the hell fire in Hereafter.” Aameen

These are some of the basic qualities that Quran has listed in Surah Al Furqan.

“May Allah Almighty make us all follow such straight path and make each of us have these qualities Aameen. “

 

 

 

 

Never Ever Forget.

Never Ever Forget.

 

Your presence, is a present to the world.

You’re unique and one of a kind.

Your life can be, what you want it to be.

Take the days, just one at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles.

You’ll make it through, whatever comes along.

Within you, are so many answers.

Understand, have courage, be strong.

Don’t put limits on yourself.

So many dreams, are waiting to be realized.

Decisions are too important, to leave to chance.

Reach for your peak, your goal and your prize.

Nothing wastes more energy, than worrying. 

The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets. 

Don’t take things too seriously.

Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets. 

Remember, that a little love goes a long way.

Remember, that a lot of love goes forever.

Remember, that friendship is a wise investment. 

Life’s treasures, are people… Together.

Realize, that it’s never too late. 

Do ordinary things, in a extraordinary way. 

Have health, hope and happiness.

Take the time, to wish upon a star.

And don’t ever forget….

For even a day….

How very special you are.

Interracial Marriages In Islam

Interracial Marriages In Islam

A touchy topic, yet a topic that NEEDS to be addressed, I have been getting so many emails regarding this, so here is my view, remember everyone has the own views-outlooks, and it may be what you agree or not, so if you disagree with me, don’t be rude, but respect the fact that I have a view.

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلنَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقۡنَـٰكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ۬ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلۡنَـٰكُمۡ شُعُوبً۬ا وَقَبَآٮِٕلَ لِتَعَارَفُوٓاْ‌ۚ إِنَّ أَڪۡرَمَكُمۡ عِندَ ٱللَّهِ أَتۡقَٮٰكُمۡ‌ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ۬

“O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa Verily, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.” (Surah Al-Hujurât 49:13)

Allah The Most High also says’s:

وَهُوَ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَ مِنَ ٱلۡمَآءِ بَشَرً۬ا فَجَعَلَهُ ۥ نَسَبً۬ا وَصِهۡرً۬ا‌ۗ وَكَانَ رَبُّكَ قَدِيرً۬ا

“And it is He Who has created man from water, and has appointed for him kindred by blood, and kindred by marriage. And your Lord is Ever All-Powerful to do what He will.” (Surah Al-Furqan 25:54)

 Rasulullah (SAW) said: “All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any “superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.” (A part from Rasulullah (SAW)’S last sermon)

“O people, your Lord is One and your father [i.e., Adam] is one. There is no superiority of the Arab over the non-Arab, or of the non-Arab over the Arab, or of the red over the black, or of the black over the red – except with regard to Taqwa.” (Imam Ahmad, 22391)

3 people who were of different race yet very beloved to Rasulullah (SAW):

• Bilal (RA) was Black, and the 1st Muezzin of Islam.
• Um Ayman (RA) was Ethiopian and she was practically a 2nd mother to Rasulullah (SAW) and he loved her.
• Usamah Ibn (RA) was black and he was very beloved to Rasulullah (SAW).

The point to remember that if the person you would like to marry is of different race, he/she should be Muslim, be pious and you should be compatible.

Parents (at least not mine)- family, bring up the culture difference, to me, culture is what people make up, Islam did not, I personally find it to be a very weak excuse forbidding someone to marry out of culture or race.

A marriage failing to difference in race- only happens when people instigate such thoughts to someone, especially when they see someone happy. Yes there would be times when ethnic’s clash, working it out, talking about it, will Inshallah bring you and your spouse stronger together and fill your marriage with love, no marriage is 100% argument free, you always have to work things out, and rely on Allah.

Rather than race, the focus should be on religion. In Islam, this is especially the case for the girl, simply because Islam grants so many rights to women that need to be safeguarded. A non-Muslim man may not be aware of her rights, or may see no need to adhere to them and she may find it more of a struggle to practice a faith that is not shared by her husband. Of course, that issue may still exist with Muslim men, seeing as there are bad and good everywhere. But he is accountable to Allah for her happiness and wellbeing and should grant her rights. Rights in Islam are very important to Muslim or not, SOME Muslim men sadly use non-Muslim women for their own pleasure, once they done, they leave them. Is this the right attitude? I say NOT!!!  They may not be Muslim, but they have feelings, and hurting a creation of Allah is simply not allowed. So please don’t lead them on.

I personally have seen interracial marriages filled with piety, love, and happiness, yes in my own family, and would I say yes go ahead with the right Islamic reasons in mind I would, BUT with your parents blessings, for their blessings are the crown of your relationship, some parents are “set” in their ways, be kind, loving and gentle with this topic, if you can, get a mediator to talk to them.

May Allah fill everyone’s marriages’ with piety, Taqwa, love and happiness, Aameen.

Please feel free to state your views, REMEMBER rude ones will not be posted.